SD21 Has To Go!!!!
Some of you who have followed my blog know that our house is occupied with my bratty and spoiled SD21 and her 2.5 yr old son. Some of you know that she was involved in 2 wrecks in less than 5 months with my wife's car. The first one she got rear ended, (I am now finding out that she slammed on the brakes on PURPOSE to piss the driver off) and the 2nd accident the car was completely totaled as she purposely cut somebody off on the highway, and she ended up in the hospital three days. She told us some wild story about how this guy was following too closely and clipped the back of the car as she was changing lanes. The insurance company though just announced that BOTH drivers are at fault because in the words of the witness who saw it, "They both were driving like dumb asses and they both are at fault."
So then my wife gets a new car just a few weeks ago. I told her that if SD21 is going to be driving her car like before, then we might as well get a used one. Wife promised up and down that SD21 would only get the car if it was NEEDED. That lasted all of two days. So just this week, SD21 got hit by another car. Because the car is so new (We don't even have the plates yet) they will probably total the car because they can already see that the suspension is ruined. So now my wife is without a car, but I really don't feel too bad because that's what she gets for letting SD21 drive the car everyday.
So a while back, SD21 and the friend she was riding with got pulled over. Cop could smell weed because they had been smoking. She told the cop it was hers, and she got cited. Little did she know that it meant a $1000 fine AND you lose your drivers license for a whole year. So now her scheme is to get a medical marijuana card and then go to court saying she had the card so she is legally allowed to have weed. Yes, she is a dumb ass, I know. So just last week she jumped through all the hoops and now has her marijuana card.
Yesterday, she asked me if I could watch her kid while she goes and buys a safe, and then stops by the smoke shop. I quickly put two and two together and told her, "Just so we are all on the same page, you know that you are NOT bringing any weed, pipes, etc into our house even if its in a safe, right?" She told me that she was not on the same page because she and the wife had already talked about it, and her being "legal" makes it different. I told her that in no way shape or form is she bringing any of that stuff in our house. She said that we'll just have to have a family meeting about it then.
I told her it was NOT up for debate, and no family meeting is going to change that. She proceeded to walk away saying that "We'll just see" and she's not going to even argue. I told her good because the family meeting isn't going to change anything. By this time we are in the house. I told her that its our house, our rules. She proceeded to tell me that she's "legal" in the eyes in the court and the law. I told her that when the court pays half our mortgage, THEN she can bring it into the house. The worst part about this, is my mom is visiting from another state so she was sitting on the coach while this is going on. SD21 then proceeded to tell me that she's legal, I need to FUCKING get over it and I'm rude for wanting to argue in front of my mom. I told her she needed to watch her language out of respect for my mom, and she said no that's just how she talks. She then said I was being an asshole and I obviously was trying to pick a fight with her. I told her I was tired of her doing whatever the hell she wants to do, and she really only cares about herself. She told me that she doesn't give a fuck what I think, my opinion doesn't matter, and....Oh here's the best part.....She told me that I need to GROW UP.
This 21 yr old spoiled bitch who has been financially and emotionally dependant upon us for her needs AND her son's needs has the nerve to tell ME I need to grow up, in front of my mom no less. I just laughed and told her that she's in no position to be telling anyone to grow up, and all she seems concerned with is weed, her cellphone, and whatever expensive clothes she can get someone to buy her. She then said she has a son to take care of, and he's always her number one priority. I just rolled my eyes at her. She then proceeded to pick up the phone and call my wife. I said, "Yeah, that's really grown up of you. Everytime somebody says something you don't like you call mommy so you can suck on her tit some more. Boo hoo".
She then left to go pick up her mom from work, and of course exaggerate what happened. I felt embarrassed this happened in front of my mom, but I'm glad that somebody else got to see what a disrespectful bitch she is. My mom said that if it were her, she would've kicked her out. Because my mom was there, my wife didn't say anything about it when she got home. When we went to bed, I said "So I suppose you think I TRIED to pick a fight with SD21." She said that yeah, I obviously did. I just laughed. Like I would REALLY try to pick a fight with my mom here visiting, and about two weeks before we leave for our anniversary trip. She wants to have another family meeting after my mom leaves, but what good will it do? Wife says that SD21 was crying because I said some things that hurt her feelings. Well too fucking bad, if she can take it, then she shouldn't be trying to call me an asshole in front of my mine. And of course SD21 is talking shit about me on Facebook right now because she's so "Grown Up". I am so sick of her entitled ass living under our roof I don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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StepAside that's what I say.
StepAside that's what I say. Screw a damn family meeting and screw SD21's feelings. She is NOT an equal in this house. If she wants to step up and pay 1/3 of the mortgage I will consider her feelings then and only then. I really do agree we need to go to marriage counseling.
SD21 later argued that she was just going to keep the safe with the weed in the car. (Not our car, her bf's car) I am not a fucking idiot though, because why even have it here if she can't smoke it here. My wife even told me that she went down to our little park for the kids in our neighborhood and smoked it there. How pathetic!!!!
Marijuana cards are pretty
Marijuana cards are pretty easy to get. Basically you have to bring in your medical records...say you have chronic pain and they pretty much give you the card as long as you pay the $150+ fee for the card. It's just bullshit...Oregon is so lax when it comes to weed. All it does is give potheads an excuse to smoke.
Call your local FBI office..
Call your local FBI office.. while marajuana may be "legal" in your state it is still illegal under Federal Law and Federal trumps state... tell them you want her arrested for possession and that her minor son is in the home as well.... nobody has to know you called right???
My skin crawled reading
My skin crawled reading this... Wow. Manipulative witch and looks like she has your wife fooled. It TORQUES me when birth parents stick up for their children when you know for a FACT if the roles were reversed, they'd be throwing a FIT! She's 21 - tell her to @#$% off and figure it all out if she's so "grown up". Why is it fair that you have to live like this because she's an effing brat? Can you tell she upset me too?!! I am glad your mom saw the "fight you picked". Someone in your corner... Your life should not be controlled by her. I wish I had a better answer than - throw her out on her a$$.
She does NOTHING. She
She does NOTHING. She contributes to our house in no way, shape or form. When she was working it was a pathetic 15 hours a week. She keeps talking about going to school but I KNOW she ain't gonna go. She just says that crap because she thinks it's what we want to hear.
You guys have NO idea how bad
You guys have NO idea how bad I just want to pack up all of her shit (which we have bought) and just kick her ass out. There are only two reasons she is still under this roof, her son and my wife. Only person my wife should be mad at is herself because she created this monster.
Good grief, how can you stand
Good grief, how can you stand this abuse? She would have been getting up off the floor . . or crawling to get away from me, had she spoken to me w/such disrespect. And the others are correct, this behavior wouldn't be tolerated from a SM. Two issues here. SD is a deadbeat disrespectful pothead, with no future plans, and DW enables her.
What are SD's plans for her future? How will she provide a life for her child and how long does she plan on living there? This question would be the top priority at the family meeting.
Tell SD she has a right to smoke pot, under her own roof. Do they have subsized apartments in your state? Perhaps you can put her on the waiting list. Also, what does she want to do as a career? Start making plans to get her out of your house or your resentment for DW is only going to get worse. And as that happens, you're marriage will suffer and may be destroyed. This type of foolishness is also bad for your health. Time to put your foot down and remind them that you are the man of the house.
Your SD does NOT deserve you.
Your SD does NOT deserve you. No way. Before you make any decisions, is there a way you can distance yourself from the situation and give yourself room to really think? Just a day on your own? What do you think your wife would do if you told her that you feel like you're going to have to chose sanity over your marriage? Remember - as bad as SD is - she's allowed to get away with it so the situation is actually not entirely her fault. There are two people in this equation who needs their wrists slapped. This happens in my house ALL THE TIME. ALL THE TIME. I was so hurt and upset when I felt I was being attacked on all sides so I distanced myself. I didn't actually go anywhere, I just didn't do anything for anyone. I didn't talk much - kept to myself - went on with my days as I normally would but did ABSOLUTELY nothing to make anyone's life easier. I ignored my SS11 for 5 days. I would respond to him if he spoke to me but I didn't solicit anything of him. Weirdly - after the 5 day hiatus - his bad behavior was nowhere to be found! He's young - so perhaps easier to deal with - but what would SD do without you? It's not just her mother supporting her.
I did exactly that. I didn't
I did exactly that. I didn't speak to her for a few days, and my wife and I weren't really speaking either. I told her that I'm tired of her grown ass daughter hiding behind her like she's a little kid. And she does that because she always knows mommy dearest will come to her rescue. I also told my wife exactly what you stated here. She acts like that because it has been allowed before in the past, but she is NOT getting her way time of I will end up getting my own place.
Will she be able to get away
Will she be able to get away with it? After all, the card was purchased AFTER the fact. She did not have any intention of getting a card until she got caught...
I would tell her lots of things are legal. She is quite welcome to do legal MJ as much as she wants until her bloodshot eyes leak blood, however not in your home. There is no family meeting because she contributes nothing to the house. She has no autonomy. And that, sweetheart, is as legal. Your house, you choose who lives there.
And tell her mother that her daughter has one month to leave. If she hasn't gone then you are divorcing her. You love her but her daughter is her prioroty and you will not be ith someone who does not put you first.
Lay it on the line. This is about empwoering "whatever!" her daughter to lead her own life under her own steam. To live as she wants with her son.
And maybe a call to CPS the next time she dumps the child on you and leaves. Every single freaking time. She leaves the house and goes off to smoke dope ... call CPS. Obviously the medical use of MJ is inhibiting her ability to parent her child appropriately.
As for the car, sign up for nothing. Let your DW sort it out for herself.
Yes the marijuana card was
Yes the marijuana card was obtained AFTER the fact, but she is stupid enough to think it's going to get the charge dropped. She will have to learn her lesson the hard way, and I hope they take her license. Maybe for once she will see that there are consequences for her actions.