Currently, BM is not allowed to see her kids via BF. She had lost custodianship almost 2 years ago due to drug use. So we have SKids 24/7. She was on a court program and was up to 3 unsupervised over nights a week when she decided to quit. She spent 5 days in jail. She then thought that she would just keep seeing the kids. Well, that is NOT how it went.

BF was advised that unless she was in a program to not let her see her kids. He agreed with this. He was allowing her to see the kids during the day with supervision of people he agreed to. Well, things went downhill when SS13 spent the night at his cousins (on BM side) and she stayed the night there as well. Come to find out later it was actually 2 nights that she stayed with him. She asked him to lie to BF about it too. BF heard through other channels that BM had stayed the night at her sister's house while SS13 was there. So when SS13 got home, BF asked him about it. At first, he said that she did not. BF is FANATICAL about lying. He told SS13 he had a free pass, if he told the truth. SS13 then fessed up that BM had stayed the night in the same house. SS13 went to his room to play games. BM came by later, preplanned, to pick up SS13 to go to the zoo. She already had SD11 at her sister's house and had not brought her. BM sister was with BM since BM lost her license. When she got there, BF asked her if she had stayed overnight at her sister's house. Of course she said no. He called SS13 out of his room, and said, "we have a problem, your mom says that she did not stay over night, which time did you lie to me?" I agree, he put his son in a bad spot. However, SS13 could not answer, would not answer. BM looked at him like he was stupid, "tell him truth" What a piece of work she is. SS13 just walked away (which he did NOT get in trouble for).

Now, BM and BF kept talking about this. She would not let up that she did not stay over. She said, "Well, "sister" is here, she can tell you." Sister came up and BF asked her, did she stay over last night. BM's sister said yes. BM said, "all night?" Sister said, "yes" I was dying with laughter on the inside when I heard her say that. That is why BF allows Skids to go to this sister's house, she is honest.

Well, BM then asked if SS13 was going to go to the zoo with her. When we asked SS13 he said no. (Well duh, he does not even want to be around her now) BF asked him if he wanted to tell BM or have BF do it. SS13 bravely said he would talk to her. I did not hear the conversation between them, but I saw her body language, she was pissed at him. Letting him have it for letting her down. He was so hurt.

She ended up not taking him, but she did take SD11. It was the last time she was allowed to see her kids. Because she also laid into SD11. She told her everything that happened. She even told her that she wished SS13 had never been born. Could you imagine your mother saying that in conversation to you. I mean hearing on the sidelines is bad enough, but directly to you? BM also laid into SD11 for being loyal to her. She should back up BM at all costs so she can see her. I have noticed that SD11 does try to cover for her, but I don't see it as out and out lying since she is saying things like, "at Mom's, I mean *BM's boyfriend's* house" BM is not suppose to be over there either. She has 2 small children, 3 and 1 that she has a no contact order on.

After this, BM was not allowed to see her kids. BF said, "I get a letter of sobriety from a program that you are enrolled in, you can see your kids" Well, she took him to court.