Okay so this forth of July weekend we had SD9. (We actually have had her all weekends since school ended!..Sob) Well this Saturday my sister and nephews who I see once or twice a month came over to have a BBQ and spend some family time with us. Well Dear fiance has Sprained his ankle and was pretty much stuck in the house not wanting to do much which was understandable. Anyway we all decide to go to our pool and play water volleyball. SD9 was also joining in the fun.

Anyhow after a while we decide to end the game and just do our own thing at the pool. I swam and played with my nephews for a bit, My Sister laid out, her husband drank beer and of course SD9 was on the pool stairs pouting because according to her "everyone is ignoring her." Note: This girl HAS to, by all means have someone to play with her at ALL TIMES for her to have some kind of fun. She does not, can not play or entertain herself, has no imagination what so ever and if she is not entertained by someone or something, electronics for example then she is not happy. My youngest nephew who is one year younger the she is, is at the pool in a corner pretending to blow up space ships with these colored pool rings and SD9 is in the other end pouting because god for bid if she pretends to be a mermaid in the pool looking for her prince etc... Ridiculous!

Anyway, I did not pay any attention to her, true. One because this is her daily routine which I'm sick of. She sits in a corner, pouts, and whines when no one wants to play with her anymore. I am not made out of energy! I to need a break from play time! sheeh and Sorry if I don't want to have to entertained her 24/7! Two because My nephews were visiting and I wanted to spend sometime with THEM for a change since I don't get to as often as I would like.

Well she noticed no one was going to go to her rescue and after 15 mins of pouting she decides to go inside the house to cry to daddykins. Anyway 30 mins after she had left, we all go inside to eat. DF is sitting by the kitchen table, well as I walk towards him he whispers to me "Why are you being mean/bitch to SD9?" I'm thinking excuse me? is that a rhetorical question? Because no one was being mean aka a bitch! I was pissed because of the way he approached me about it. Not asking me, Why is his daughter upset but pretty much accusing me of being "mean/a bitch to her" He was not present at the pool with us and has no clue what had happened. He didn't bother to hear my side of the story only went by what SD9 had told him and went with it, left it at that!. which bothered me the most. Well I told him no one was being mean and left it at that.

After dinner we decide to go to the pool again SD9 got upset because she had gotten a shower already because she thought we were not going back. Too bad I thought, she should have thought about it or asked one of us before storming off early because no one wanted to play with her. We ask her if she wants to join us anyway and she says No because she doesn't want to take another shower (mind you this girl hates showers or anything that involves cleanliness.) Well then thats when DF again tells me she prob doesn't want to come because I was being mean/a bitch to her and not talking to her. Which by the way was in front of my sister as well.

Then I blow off... one because Again he approached me the wrong way(or so I think)and Two for trying to put me on the spot instead of talking to me in private if this subject meant that much to him. I told him, I quote "Sorry if I don't want to have to stop everything I do for SD9, its not always about her!, My nephews are here and they deserve just as much time with me. I don't see them as often as I see her and she has to learn to share me!"

Well that didn't go so well. SD9 started crying and DF gave me the death look. I didn't care at that point I was already upset and everything I said had just slipped out. He then tried to comfort SD9 by telling her that its okay "HE would stop everything to tend to her" Good for him I'm thinking that makes one of us.

Sorry this is long, story short.. According to my sister I was 'Very harsh" and deserve to apologize to SD9 and DF more her then him. And that HE also needs to learn to approach these things a lot better.

I had apologized to SD9 who already got over the little spat as I thought she would.(DF thinks she is still a baby, a victim and deserves to be treated kindly at ALL TIMES.) Now HE is still upset with me after I tried to make my peace. Which I don't understand. Because if he had just asked me nicely instead of pointing fingers then maybe just maybe he would have avoided me blowing up the way I did.

What do you think?