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I don’t want my kid living without his/her father…

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Submitted by foxxystep on Wed, 04/06/2011 - 11:40am

How many of us are guilty of this. In saying that we often find ourselves providing our kids with such dysfunction that they’d be better off being raised by a stable single parent? That’s the worst excuse in the book, because if you are staying for the children, you are there for the wrong reasons, and the people that get the worst deal ARE the very children you’re staying for.

Weekends without SO are so relaxing....

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Submitted by foxxystep on Fri, 04/01/2011 - 2:11pm

So its Friday night, and the only reason I am sitting in front of my laptop is because I need to complete a document for a client that i promised I'd have to her by 11pm. i already have the DVD's standing next to the TV in my room. Got my snacks, and even though I've been put on bedrest AGAIN by my obstetrician today, its not so bad. The first episode (with FSS7 being deadly sick in hospital with a tooth infection *giggle*) taught me to get through it okay.

So we went to FMIL for tea and cake last night... OMG!

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Submitted by foxxystep on Wed, 03/30/2011 - 4:24am

I don't know what to really say about this, other than HOLY MACARONI!

So last year we treated her to having her hair done and get spa treatment... okay lemme be honest I treated her to that last year as a birthday gift, not WE... So for my birthday I didn't as much a get a happy birthday text message. So this year I decided to do go there with a cake for her b/day.

Its not my fault that you chose a loser as a biomom for your son!!

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Submitted by foxxystep on Sat, 03/26/2011 - 12:27pm

Ohh this annoys me to no end. The income difference is HUGE in our house and Bio moms house where FSS7 lives. Not my fault she didn't finish school, and I completed my MBA. its by choice. I can therefore afford to look after my kids and provide for them a lot better. That's why I had my first kid at 29 and pregnant with my second at 33... While I had my nose in my books, BM was dangling her legs over mens shoulders.

I was ALSO a stepkid dammit! And I was not anything like this....

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Submitted by foxxystep on Fri, 03/25/2011 - 9:27am

I sit and look at the hassles step kids cause in the lives of their blended families and I wonder to myslf WHY??? My dad and mom divorced when i was 3, and I've had 3 different step moms since. The first one I don't remember, cos I was very small. The second stepmom was my dad's FIRST ex-wife (the one before my mom - yes my father was a serial groom LOL)... anyway, I had two older brothers and this was their mom.

Is it a good idea to disengage before you even engage?

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Submitted by foxxystep on Wed, 12/01/2010 - 7:30am

I was reading through so many blogs, posts, and other websites regarding step-parenting, and have realised a common thread... When you make the decision to take on a man who has kids, would the relationship not be better started when you do it from a point of disengagement as your point of departure. You enter the relationship with your stepkids from a point of being disengaged. Would this be a good solution to avoiding hurtful situations to begin with. You may also then give the SK's the opportunity to try and bond with you, as opposed to you trying to bond with them.

A heartfelt letter to my SO about his son's unacceptable behaviour

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Submitted by foxxystep on Tue, 11/30/2010 - 7:06am

*I wrote this letter with bits of advise I even received from this forum*

my love,

I write this letter to you, because sometimes we forget what’s said, and we take things out of context, and risk misinterpretation. This letter cannot be altered once it’s in your hands, and it will be a constant source of reference in terms of how I feel, what I said, and the spirit in which I said it.