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You cannot pick up the children after school because I need to spend as much time with them as possible!!!!

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Submitted by forsakingallothers on Mon, 08/27/2012 - 12:56pm

I have a little song going on in my head..."It's all about me, It's all about me..." That is our BM. Her reasoning is non-existant, she cannot think beyond her own needs, the list goes on and on. Poor hubby who has the EOW and recently got her to agree in mediation to Wednesday overnights, cannot pick his children up EVER after school because she enjoys picking them up at 3:00, dropping them off to the GM, then picking them up again, having them change out of their school uniforms (sometimes in the car)and then taking them to Dad's at 5:15. Oh, and she let him do it at the end of last year but then changed her mind this year 3 days before school started. She got mad!

Really??? The pain these dads go through is horrible. AND THE KIDS!

He is relentless, however. He is taking her back to court to get the language changed. A judge couldn't see that there is less transition for those kids to simply be picked up by their father from school? IF we can not piss him off for what he might think is a trivial reason to take someone to court...but, she won't budge. He has tried everything.

Oh, one more note...she wants them to decide in front of her where they want to spend their time. Pressure anyone? They are under 10 years old.

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Submitted by StickAFork on Mon, 08/27/2012 - 1:02pm

Ok, your last line made me gag. Stupid BM.

The BM in my situation did the same thing. It said "one evening" and evening is NOT when school lets out at 3:30. Ho, hum. So frustrating.
Is your DH off of work early enough to get them? If not, then court is dumb, imo.
Also, yeah, if BM is getting her kids from school (not just a daycare van or something) then the judge may not change the language. Hopefully he will, though!
As a BM, I like getting my kids from school. I find out about their day, ask what homework there is, and just basically touch base with them. It helps to have a few minutes to reconnect.

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Submitted by forsakingallothers on Mon, 08/27/2012 - 1:07pm

DH is able to take off work early to be there. And, it is only one day a week. She gets 4. And, when she did allow him to pick them up after school, they would call her at 8:00 that evening and tell her about their day. Yeah, judge may not allow a change in the language but what a miss on the new court order. Dang it. Thanks for replying, SAF.

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Submitted by forsakingallothers on Mon, 08/27/2012 - 1:12pm

Thanks, Hicktard. We hope so too. It is amazing this power BM's have over their tender little minds. We already can see after 5 years the influence. It helps me when something comes out of their mouths that shouldn't. I used to let my jaw drop, get mad, leave the room, now I picture BM's face and know that she was responsible for this, not them. Luckily, she leaves the little one alone for the most part and doesn't mess with her head constantly. I am a BM too to a 21 year old successfully launched girl and I cannot imagine doing this to her - ever. But, then again, I am not suffering from multiple mental issues...without medication! LOL!