My SS10 Has high functioning autism. We live in the suburbs with a HOA, nice neighborhood in FL. She lives in Massachusetts. She sees SS twice a year. We have had him since he was 5 and to me he is more MY son than hers.

This year for his birthday she sent him... a f****** compound bow and arrow set with extra arrows. Are you kidding me!!!!! Didn't ask, no warning it just showed up in the mail. We have 4 children in this house including a baby!!! For the last year we went through problems of Ss forgetting to wipe his b*** And you think a compound bow and arrow is appropriate?

Does she want him to kill himself?!? He's f****** autistic you b****! WTH!!! So essentially she bought him nothing because I'm not allowing him to have those. I won't even let my husband get a gun. Weapons are not allowed in my house and she knows it.

This caused a fight between DH and I. I said its not to come out of the box and he said well maybe we can take him somewhere that he can use it. Ummmm NOOOOOO are you daft as well?!? SS is not upset at all he understands actually. He knows my feelings on weapons. He calmed me down and said it's okay I don't have to use it. He is very sensitive to people's emotions even though he forgets the most basic life skills. I told my husband over my dead body will this be in my house and it is something that I will walk out with my kids over.

In my opinion, while most decisions in marriage are joint, it only takes one veto with weapons. What the hell was she thinking?!? I asked my step son and he said no he did not ask her to buy them.