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Everytime when step kids stay over, I am gettin upset. What can I do?

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Submitted by ferdiewen on Wed, 09/26/2012 - 7:21pm

My husband has two children, (boy 12, girl 9). We have been married since February. Now I am two months pregnant. My husband and his ex share the custody so the kids stay 2-5 days per week. Every time when they came over, I get a tight stomach and feeling upset. I am not close to them and I feel I am losing my space. I tried to fix dinner for them and this is pretty much about it. Nothing else in common. His children annoy me, they are loud and lack of discipline. I am counting the day they are leaving for college. I try to see the psychology abut didn’t help much. I am happy with my husband and excited for the new baby. However, whenever the kids are around, I feel miserable.

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Submitted by BunkinLove on Wed, 09/26/2012 - 8:18pm

I feel the exact same way. Whenever the kids are with my husband and I the atmosphere is extremely uncomfortable. Maybe it's just me...but I feel like a prisoner in my own home. The kids have my husband wrapped around their little fingers and treat me with absolute disrespect. They do not appreciate anything! I am always in a bad mood when they are with us. I wish I wasn't....but that will only happen when they move out....in 8 years!!!! GRRRRRR!!!!

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Submitted by kitty1470 on Wed, 09/26/2012 - 9:03pm

I dont feel comfortable with Skids around either..I feel like they are invading my home. Especially when he has them for a week. I just live my life and do my own thing like they aren't there but most of the time I end up in my room like a prisoner just so I can be away from them, it sucks. If I don't get away I get completely miserable..so I have no choice. So you're not alone.

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Submitted by Kes on Thu, 09/27/2012 - 3:35am

Welcome to ST, where I would say 80% of the members feel exactly the same way as you do. Like a lot of us, you signed up to this exclusive club where you serve your longish sentence in your own home, but it is still a prison.