Well thank you everyone who wrote back. I can't tell you the deep breath I take when I hear back from step mom's that are going through the same crap. I really feel alone sometimes and my husband thinks I am crazy and all I care about is the money or the SCHEDULE. His argument is these are his children he wants them anytime he can get them. Mine is I went into this relationship knowing that he had 50/50 custody set up. So that means we have a schedule and CS set up accordingly.When the bm does this crap she knows what it does to our household and I think enjoys it and waits for it to come apart at the seams.(as it has so many times) So far my DH and I have always found a way out of the madness but sometimes I just want to give up.

Regarding the latest crap. My DH called BM on Friday and had a 45 minute yelling match with BM. He told her we will have the kids the entire three weeks while she is gone. We will not be handing off to her family at anytime because it is not our job to do this. (They don't like us anyway,it will just cause more conflict) And she will not be getting her CS while she is on vacation. (she really threw a fit about that) Lastly my DH told her that we are switching to a week to week schedule. If she can leave her kids for three weeks at a time she can handle a week. She fought but eventually gave up. We will see I know she will come back with something else.

Then we get the kids after school and they are fully informed of emails and conversations regarding us not wanting them and taking her money and the whole thing. So they were a wreck and blaming us for all of it and I lost it. I tried to stay as respectful as I could but I refuse to be the bad guy this time. I can't say all that I said (this is long enough already) but we (me,my DH and step kids) all ended up crying and loving each other more. Let's see how long it lasts. Their BM is hard at work at turning her children against us both. Even their own Father. She makes me sick.

But she wins she gets her vacation and I get kids for three weeks and did I mention that my DH and I are trying to get pregnant. Oh what fun it is. Thanks for the help but I need more don't ya think?

Sincerely;
FED UP Stepmom