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Submitted by FavSM on Tue, 04/15/2008 - 1:26pm

Well first i have to say im glad to know that im not the only one who has a crazy xwife and BM in there life. I need advice on something thou, BM and I dont get along, bc of her im more then willing to be nice but she cant seem to handle that, but anyway my SS4 has his first soccer game wed and wed are our days with the kids. well BM is the assistant coach and my concern is when we take SS4 to his game im afraid she will make a huge scene, which i dont want. So do i go i really want to and feel i have the right to and DH wants me there so do i go? and if she does make a scene do i leave? or just not go which is totally against what i want bc im tired of catering to her needs and wants. HELP!! What would you do/

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Submitted by bellacita on Tue, 04/15/2008 - 1:52pm

and let her make a scene AND an ass of herself. u have every rite to go, especially if DH wants u there. do not let her stop u from participating in this!! thats what she wants! show up, look great, be affectionate w DH, cheer yr SS on. if she causes a scene, smile and walk away. not worth yr time. if she wants to embarrass herself AND her son, sit back and watch Wink

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Submitted by smurfy1smile on Tue, 04/15/2008 - 5:47pm

Go and enjoy the game. BM is coaching so she should be concentrating on the team and not on you. If she makes a scene, she may loose her coaching position. It does not look good to the other parents if BM has a fit and makes a scene. I coached my BS16's soccer team when he was little and I was way too busy with the kids to worry about anything else.

Have fun, cheer the little guy on and congratulate him on a job well done.

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Submitted by skyisfalling on Tue, 04/15/2008 - 8:43pm

It is yours and DHs day, so you have every right to go. Like the others said if she makes a scene, let her. It will all fall back on her. The only thing that I would suggest is just dont engage into the arguement or anything that may cause an arguement. If she tries to walk up to you and start an arguement/conversation just say "Will you excuse me, I think I left my cellphone in the car." or something like that. If you can't escape her at all, I would smile at her and just say "I am sorry that you feel that way." I used to do that to BM on this end and it really showed her that I didn't care much about what she had to say or her existance. And she stopped for little while. Hope everything goes well. GL!

"For the love of herself, she acknowledged her worth."