I've got an unusual problem, and I'm hoping for some insight. I've been the stepmom of a wonderful boy, now a 25 yr old man for almost 17 yrs. He has been dating a great girl for almost a year. My husband and I are hoping it is a long standing and serious relationship. She' s a great girl, and she and I have gotten very close in the past year.
Here 's the problem. For the first few months of my stepson's new relationship his mother barely acknowledged he had a steady, let alone, serious girlfriend. For the past couple of months it seems like she has to spend every waking moment with her son and his girlfriend. This is causing me to have some very uncomfortable jealousy issues. I'm jealous of the time they spend together, and I feel sorry for my husband for the time that he wants to spend with his son, but can't.
Years ago, his mother asked us to allow him to spend more time with her and her husband. We accepted because we knew it was important for him to form a bond with both blended families. Unfortunately, his mother has never understood that it's time for him to be on his own. To the point where she gets very upset when he brings up the subject of moving out of her apt.
This woman has always been very manipulate. She is a student counselor by profession, and she has always used her training to manipulate her son. Knowing how possessive she is of him, I know she' s just putting on an act so that she can continue to manipulate things to her advantage. I'm very upset with myself for these feelings of jealousy I get when I know they're all spending time together. Especially, since I understand that my daughter in law needs to form a relationship my stepsons bio mother if there relationship will be long standing. Be that as it may, I still can't make these feelings of needing to protect them from this woman go away. Anyone have any advice?