First off, I want to say thank you to all of you for helping me a better stepmom to my SD. I am learning so much by reading here each day. I'm also very thankful I do not have to deal with BM and never will. I think that is a big help in keeping our home on an even keel. I'm also working very hard on trying to make sure I'm not the kind of BM that a lot of your nightmares are made of.

Now for my present issue. I have an ex who could rival a lot of your BM's on here. He's a real piece of work. Every summer we have issues with him scheduling his summer vacation. I sent him a CRR letter in January letting him know when I wanted my days (Aug 1-14). Our court order states we have to give the other parent a two week notice prior to our vacation. Today I got a letter, not CRR as also directed by the CO, saying he is taking the girls for his days starting on Friday. He also says he sent me a letter in May telling me these dates, which he did not do. If he would have why send the letter I got today? He can't even keep his lies straight. When I called him to explain this is not the way it works we are to have 2 weeks notice and that since he wouldn't tell me earlier when he wanaated them I have already made plans for them this weekend and next week. He got very hateful, screaming at me over the phone telling me he was taking me back to court and just basically being a real pain. I hung up on him and he called back. I just let it go to voicemail and he proceeded to threaten me even more. After listening to the voicemail I'm about half scared what he will do. He can get very out of control physically as well as verbally.

My question is do I still have to let them go even though he only gave a 3 day notice? The girls will miss a week of church camp that I already paid for at $200.00 a piece. I know as custodial parent its my responsibility to faacilitate their relationship, but how many times do I have to put up with him not following the CO? This happens every summer, every holiday any time he thinks he wants something. I get threatened with court at least once a month and this is not an exageration. Im so tired of fighting him, but also so tired of him thinking he can do whatever the H--- he thinks he wants to.