DH had an epiphany about one thing we all have issue with....
Why does the DH always seem to let BM's get away with everything? How could he have been with HER and let her run all over him and not act that way with me? Why is it so different?
DH and I were talking last night about nothing in particular and somehow BM came up, something about how she use to treat him and I made a comment about how different he was with her. His comment back to me was "When I was with her I was a different man, different people bring out different parts of each other, she didn't allow me to be myself, I am myself with you because you accept me for who I am and I love you for it." WOW, it really opened my eyes. Its so true, I know I have never been like I am now in this relationship, so much more stable, much more open. I don't know why the sudden epiphany but his words brought me comfort. Just wanted to share. 
~Evil
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It's called Stockholm Syndrome,lol,lol.
De inimico non loquaris sed cogities.
It is where the captive/hostage starts to connect and reflect the captors/kidnappers idea's and mannerisms. Unfortunatly, this learned behavior is never shown to the captor,(as the captor still maintain's control over their hostage(through learned fear) even when hostage is released) However this learned behavior is shown to other's that the captive/hostage now feel's they themselves have control over or who the captor feels is now trying to control them. Often they dont even realize that they are exhibiting the same behavior as their previous captor exhibited to them.I laughed, but the reality is this is exactly what plays out in so many area's of life...Hope that makes sense to you... Just be glad that dh broke free from her control and can see himself as a seperate and different entity/person than he was or felt he had to be with her. So many people come out of controlling relationship still being controlled and remaining as they were with the controller.