My husband has been divorced twice. He has a 14 year old daughter from his first marriage and a 10 year old son from his second marriage. The first marriage was awful and his daughter now has abandondment issues. The second marriage ended in a sad divorce that probably shouldn't have happened (which makes it very hard to accept that wife #2 is a decent person...I would rather hate her). DH and I have been married for 4 years and living together for 9. Even though the kids treat me like family I don't think they would miss me if I were gone.