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Enough of her's picture

My DH and I have been together for over 20 years and he has a daughter who is 16. She was living in a different country with her mother and just 3 years ago, we decided to have her come live with us. Throughout all this time that she was not living with us, we made sure that we visited her at least 6 times for the year and we have continually supported her financially over the years.
She has been wrecking havoc on our lives and have given my DH an ultimatum that he needs to choose her or me (his wife), she moved out to his sister’s place (her aunt hates me) and have been causing more damage than before.
Ever since she arrived in this country, we have been showering her with love and support. I have gotten her into one of the best schools and have taken her to the dentist to fix her crooked teeth (that is costing me approximately $10,000). I got a phone for her over Christmas and that kid ran the bill up to $1000 for the month, so I turned off her phone before it went higher.

Now her BM is in the picture and has joined with my DH’s sisters and is siding with this kid to disgrace us to the community. This little girl has called me the worst names in the book and she even went as far as to tell me that the last time she checked” I wasn’t the one who opened my legs to push her out.”

My DH and I have decided to fight this together and have ignored them to date, but it is tearing me apart. How do I deal with this?

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smnikki's picture

she the little bitch back to her mothers!

not really, but its a nice thought when you deal with people like this right? what does dh say about it all? why is she doing this? does she want to go back and live with her mom?

Enough of her's picture

When she first arrived, she claimed that she wanted to go back to her mother. After a month or so, the mother convinced her to stay to get a better education. When she first arrived, she didn't know her 2 times table and I had to teach it to her. She spoke english her entire life.

My DH and are in this together and we decided that she will not break us at all.

His sister are also behind the actions of the little girl, they ahve encouraged her behaviour all this time. The little girl told a lie on her step dad and made the mother divorce him.

stepmasochist's picture

How have you been with your DH for 20 years and he has a 16 year old kid? Did he cheat on you? Did you break up at some point and get back together?

I'm just curious. It has to be something like that. Have you forgiven him? Do you resent the girl?

Enough of her's picture

we were seperated for a while and got back together about a year after this child's birth. We have forgiven each other and have moved on.

overmyhead's picture

Tell them all to go piss up a rope.....You've done enough.

Every town has an Elm Street

Enough of her's picture

you made me smile. i totally agree with "Every town has an Elm Street"