blog 1- is it supposed to be this hard?
Ok so i met my husband while i was 7 months pregnant with my now 2 yr old bd, at the time my sd was 18 months. She was a sweet little girl but very shy. She's now 3 1/2 and she has made a dramatic change. She's now very nasty to both of my bd, my husband and i had a bd together 7 months ago. She's constantly tattling on my bd, taking toys, not sharing, and having a major attitude toward me. I've always had some je :sick: alousy problems because in my husband's eyes my sd does no wrong, ever. He constantly babies her and when she's here, me and the bd's are invisible. I'm constantly being told i'm being to hard on her when i'm not, i've only put her in time out once. When she's here she interrupts any word i try to say to my husband, all over him and giving me dirty looks in the process. Really i keep telling myself i'm imagining it, she's only 3 1/2, but the more things happen i feel its her lashing out at me and my bd's . A lot more has happened but i'm typing this on my cell lol.
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A lot of people may remark
A lot of people may remark later on with the same sentiment but if its behavior that needs changing, the parent has to be the one to put his foot down. Not the stepparent. Discipline doesn't work if only one adult figure is following the rules.
If I were you, just glancing at the situation, where it looks like your husband is in a world of his own with SD, I'd disengage completely. Let them have their world and in 3 years or so, he'll be begging you to come back because he has a daughter whos constantly getting into trouble at school to which you can laugh and say 'told you so'
He's actually home most of
He's actually home most of the time, i backed off quite a bit because i told him i'm sick of walking on eggshells all the time. I'm just not sure what to do when she's lashing out at my bd's when he doesn't intervene. We have set rules in our home and she never has to follow them. It makes me angry. Not at her s but at the siuation. She's 3
Mine is 9 and still does the
Mine is 9 and still does the same thing that your 3 year old does! I wish I knew what to tell you but this place has helped me put things out there. It feels good to get a response!
Keep a damn therapist's
Keep a damn therapist's tongue quiet when not in session, sorry. Clearly, he feels guilty, he is trying to compensate for something. You could focus on the daughter, or you could focus on what your sense is of what it is he trying to work through. What are the circumstances of his end of romantic relationship from her mom? He feels guilty, deal with this with him, not the daughter. The daughter has no part in this.
Well he explained to me that
Well he explained to me that sd was a result of a one night stand. He tried to stay with bm but couldn't because he didn't love her.