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Maybe he is finally getting it?

ecgirl's picture

So, I got my mark back for an exam that I rewrote a few months ago (I failed the class, but did well enough to rewrite). Well, it turns out I failed this exam as well. I am totally devistated, if I fail this course again I am out of my program. So yesterday when I got home FDH and I had a talk about stress and kids. It's already been said that I can't take the kids all the time anymore and he needs to help more around the house (laundry, cleaning), I had already failed two courses and I said I just can't do this, I can't focus on school and take care of the kids (it's only on weekends, but I also work full time). So this created some serious baby momma drama! (see previous posts) And he has been pushing back on me saying well, BM2 says she will keep SS5 (who is sick and needs to be monitored pretty much constantly) and I can go pick up SD7 and take her to gymnastics and keep her while FDH is at work. Um, if I could get all my studing done on week nights, don't you think I would? NO! I still can not study when I'm running her to her stuff and making her meals, etc and she wants someone to play with her while Daddy is at work.
But last night he seemed to really get it, I think the I am out of my program if I fail again thing finally hit it home for him. This will ruin my career! I hope that he really does get it this time, because I'm really seriously stressed out and upset about this. I'm not this person at all, I'm smart and yes, I've failed before, but not like this, not repeatedly. Sad When I failed calculus in University, I got an A the next time I took it. I should have passed this time, but I'm too busy dealing with everyone elses shit to focus on my stuff. So here's to hoping that his actions in the next little while match his words.......

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Great Mom but horrified Stepmom's picture

Don't care how he and BM have to do it but THEY have to care for THEIR kid while THEY aren't home. That doesn't mean you do it or you try and work around it or you drop the kids somewhere and take an hour for studying while they finish their activity and you pick them up again.

It means you have your life and all the study time you need to have while you are at school.

They deal with the the kids. EVERYTHING with the kids.

Put your foot down!

kathc's picture

You need to just say no.

NO you will not watch the kids.

NO you will not pick up the kids.

NO you will not cook for the kids.

Your education is far too important to let it go because of HIS children.

If neither of them can watch their kids, then one of them needs to hire a babysitter.

ecgirl's picture

So agreed, this is the point I've been trying to drive home, I have been saying NO! It's my new favourite word (along with the phrase 'I am not their parent, what would you do if I weren't here?' lol). I love this site and it has been so great having people to remind me that I can say it and I should say it! Smile