How do you deal with it?
First I must state I'm extremely grateful that I found this site. Reading your experiences has helped me daily!!!
Recently my two SKs have soccer practice, which interfere with our time with them and our weekends but we always take them and attend. Last game my SK5 CLUNG to BM the WHOLE time. Even after the game, SK5 started to cry and wouldn't leave her mom, saying "i want to go with her." BM had a satisfied smile on her face and wouldn't even assist my BF when he was trying to carry her away. The whole day she was pouty and whining. When we have them, sooner than not she gets whiny and braty. Apparently, BM and her parents spoil her senseless and baby her to the point where she doesn't take responsibility of her actions.
My SK7, whenever she is in trouble CRIES within seconds!!! I mean we have NEVER yelled or hit the kids. We have the board (you know the ones you kind of see on SUPERNANNY, but ours isn't fancy LOL). We give them consequences but it never stops this behavior. When you only see your SKS EOW, how do you and/or BF/DH deal with bad/bratty/whiny behavior?
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When you only see your SKS
When you only see your SKS EOW, how do you and/or BF/DH deal with bad/bratty/whiny behavior?
-----------> I don't. BF handles it, which usually only takes him raising his voice, then they straighten up. If there are occassions where he doesn't discipline when I feel that he should, I completely disengage from all of them by finding something else to do alone or with my own kids. No sense in getting myself worked up over someone else's actions that I have no control over.
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There is no "WE" in dealing
There is no "WE" in dealing with SD11. There used to be a "WE" in dealing with her but I've learned that no matter how much my husband adores me,loves me,worships me...I'll always be the wicked witch as long as there was a "WE" in dealing with his daughter. I used to point out everytime she was being bratty,spoiled,whiney,disrespectful to him,etc... but since I was pointing it out DH felt the need to "protect" his baby from my 'criticism'. So I opted out of the whole stepmom thing and became "DH's wife" instead of "SD's stepmom". Since then he has become MUCH more astute at seeing bad,undesireable behavior and corrects it rather well himself. I guess he figures he doesn't have to protect his babygirl from the hideous wicked queen of the castle anymore so it's safe for him to notice her bad behavior and fix it.
And that,my dear sweet ladies, is called selective disengagement.
Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others. ~Buddha