Just annoyed... nothing major
As I posted in my last blog SD18 just had to come here last Friday because her Mother's house had no power after the storm we had. We've still been alternating time with her here this summer even though she's 18. She leaves for college in a few weeks.
Well.. I know for a fact the power was restored at her Mother's but guess whose still here!?? WTF. This entire week was supposed to be free of her... I just had 3 weeks straight of her here. I was supposed to have 2 off. I know she's leaving soon and I probably should just keep my mouth shut but she's going to annoy me until the last second she leaves here.
My husband and I both work remotely since Covid started. He left to go golfing so today would be a rare day alone at the house for me. Every day I sit up in my bedroom on my laptop while hubs sets up in our living room. Well of course Princess is here so forget me actually getting to leave my bedroom for the day! She fu&$*ng takes over the living room before I got down there this morning.. set up shop with her blankey and a movie. GRRRRRRRR. I leave to go to the Grocery store... recyclables are piled on the side of the counter, garbage cans still at the end of the driveway, mail sitting in the mail box. and she's just on my couch.. eating MY food (I buy the groceries) being a useless miserable human being.
I should've left everything- I should've. But I just can't. I should tell her to get off her lazy ass and help but I might be the least confrontational person you've ever met. So at least I can vent on here!!!
On a happy note- my husband went to her graduation this past weekend and of course the BM is there... but apparently that should stand for "Big Momma" and not Bio-Mom! Apparently BM is packing on the lbs these days. He came home and told me "I DEFINITELY upgraded"... LOL. I asked what he meant and he tells me about her. I mean duh-already knew that he did but very nice to hear!! (I'm terrible- I know!!!)
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Oh Hon, I've been there. But
Oh Hon, I've been there. But if you keep interfering by cleaning up after her, how will your DH ever learn the lessons he needs to in order to change things?
Until he gets the full monty on on how lazy, sloppy, and selfish his daughter is, he'll always want her around. You need to let him be irritated and inconvenienced as much as possible.
This right here is great
This right here is great advice. My DH is a lot less likely to have SD come if he knows he's in charge of paying for everything and cleaning up after SD12. I'm still nice to her but I don't help him with any of the unfun parenting tasks. His kid, his problem.
My theory
I know she's not your BD so you have the step dynamic going on. But my theory is that the reason why our kids are so very aggravating right before they leave is its God's way to make it easier on the parents. We are so very mad at their laziness, stupidity, stubbornness and everything else. If we still felt about them like we did when they were adorable little ones, it would kill us to have them leave. As it is, we are so glad when they go.
Im there right now
SS20 does not work, stays up all night sleeps all day. Does not have the brain to take down the recycling box filled with all his beer cans. Piles dishes, leaves the kitchen a mess, piles more garbage in the trash can thats overflowing and falling on the floor. Never ending BS. I refuse to do any of it. I aint no babysitter especially for someone whos an adult.