Oh where does sd live?
Well DH has been living at his parents house. They live in a 55+ community and per rules he can only stay there 28 days but he has been there longer. Well there is a moratorium on evictions in her state right now likely through the end of the year. That is when her lease is up. It will not be renewed. She will be homeless. She has no money for a new place. DH will have to take custody of SD9. The house is solely my parent's. I told him under no circumstances is he allowed back here with SD9. He has to stay with his parents or start applying NOW for housing somewhere. He has no income. He is passive about the whole thing. I am assuming he can't force the two of them back here. They are both verbally and emotionally horrible.
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BM lease is up
Sorry. That was unclear. BM will likely be homeless Jan 1 and DH cannot stay at his parent's.
Are you legally separated
Are you legally separated from DH, or in the process of divorce? Since he and his spawn are verbally and emotionally horrible, I'm assuming you don't intend to stay married to him. If he is not currently living there, I cannot imagine he has any rights to live in a house owned by your parents. If there is still a question as to whether he lives there (i.e., all his stuff is there or something similar), it might not be as clear cut. I would take the steps that are necessary now to ensure that he cannot move back - see a divorce lawyer.
We are not
We are not yet legally separated. After a weekend in August where BM was recording events in my home and DH slept through his whole visitation while his daughter verbally abused me, I told him to leave. I am having my lawyer write an agreement that he is not to take his daughter to my home under any circumstances.
Kind of confused
Im trying to read your post, just a little confused about a few things... So your DH was living with his parents with his D from BM. BM is losing her home and you dont want DH to come back home with his D?
Out of curiosity, what would
Out of curiosity, what would your remedy be if your DH breached that agreement?
It’s your parents house
He has no right to live there. I guest I can move into your parents house too. ?? He doesn't have a job , a lousy parent and a loser. Why do you want him. He has to figure out where to live . That on him not you
Like the others I am confused
Like the others I am confused BUT I think your first step is to file for divorce.
Why stay married to a man who lives with his parents and doesn't have a job- regardless of his child situation. Also, while we marry our partners and not their children- they are sort of a package deal. If you can't deal with his 9 yr old- cut ties. Why go on like this for the rest of your life? It isn't like things will magically improve, especially given your current circumstances.
None of this is your worry or
None of this is your worry or concern. Just move forward with the divorce you said you wanted. While you may not have a "legal separation agreement" in place.. that doesn't mean that you aren't, in fact separated.. as he is not living with you.. and you aren't otherwise having a relationship with him.
Go to a lawyer and start that ball rolling. Your soon to be Ex problems with living arrangements.. and his daughter.. they aren't your problem to solve.