Dead Battery?
Dh coaches ss10 soccer team. He drove the kid home for the last 4 seasons and I thought it was BS. Womb Donor announced in a therapy session for ss13 last spring that she can't do things with the kids because all she does is drive to soccer? Really- you drop him off 1 day a week. Dh has 2 to 3 practices a week and games at least 1 regardless of whose day it etc. the therapist scratched her head? After that comment Dh decided she would truly learn what it means to drive to soccer all of the time.
Well dumb bitch let her battery die during practice and who stayed to help but Dh? I asked him in the almost 20 yrs he has known her has she ever stopped to help anyone and the answer was no. Did anyone else help - no! Why did you? Sorry - but she is an idiot. Last spring at a tournament Dh lost his wedding band and the whole team and all of their families were on the field looking for it. Except her or ss10. Ok- looking for my Dh wedding band may be a bit much but not allowing ss10 to help? Packing up and taking kid with her? Ss10 has all but said the words you are more of a mother figure to me than she is. When there are issues at school who do they call me! So it isn't like I am just a stepmom. I throw his birthday parties, I cook with him, we have a wonderful relationship. She on the other hand is a douche bag in my opinion and everyone else I know sees it too.
So why in the world would he stop to help? Because his kids were in the car is crap! She wouldn't have helped him! Would you be angry too?
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I know - I know , I told him
I know - I know , I told him he should have taken the kids and told her to pick them up when she got it figured out.
She can't reply to emails or
She can't reply to emails or do anything. But, she wants her child support and to still be a bitch!
---Ss10 has all but said the
---Ss10 has all but said the words you are more of a mother figure to me than she is. When there are issues at school who do they call me! So it isn't like I am just a stepmom. I throw his birthday parties, I cook with him, we have a wonderful relationship. She on the other hand is a douche bag in my opinion and everyone else I know sees it too.---
This is probably why. She's his mom, if she is getting CS, the kid lives with her? Yet, you say you are more of a mom to him than her? You throw his birthday parties and all that about her sucking, can't you see why she would not stay and help or allow her son to help find your wedding band?
It IS like you are just a stepmom because he HAS a mom, regardless of whether you think she is a good mom or not. I get it, I do, but in a situation where the mom is raising the kid, major overstepping is only causing problems for you and the kid and everyone. It's great that you have a wonderful relationship with him, but you ARE the stepmom and you shouldn't compete at all with the mother as mother-figure. There is no competition and there is no comparison. She doesn't drive to soccer because Dad does it for her, so why should she.
I don't see the issue with
I don't see the issue with him helping her out. I would do the same for anyone even if it was my SS's BM who I think is a terrible mother. I know my Dh would do the same and I personally would be more ticked it he didn't help her. I doubt she did it on purpose, people leave lights on etc all the time and drain their batteries, it happens. I would look at it as you DH was kind enough to help someone else out, even if it was BM, who happened to have to take the kid(s) home.
She lives with him 2 days a
She lives with him 2 days a week one week and 5 the next! And on her 5 days she drops he and is brother Off at grandmas. So - just because she gave birth to them - she has been out to lunch!
Annay - just because you get child support doesnst mean you have custody! It means in this case she chooses to be underemployed to make my Dh pay so she can stay home and watch tv! And if birthday parties are sucking up in your mind then please answer are Christmas trees, Easter baskets, tooth fairy and Halloween stupid too? Because they don't exist at her house either - grandma does it or I do! When she cancels surgery ( number 3 in a series of 4 of them ) for stepson so she could go on vacation makes her MOTY too? It had been on the books for 5 months? Or the year before she decied to buy a house 2 months before a different surgery and decides to move 3 days before he came home. Who ended up keeping them for a week? Oh yeah that would be me! And no it wasn't like he just had his tonsils out! He is wheelchair bound - he was in a hospital bed in the middle of my living room needing flipped every 2 hours - which meant turning the bed too! And I had 3 month old to take care of- Dh had to work if you are asking that - she didn't work! Is that somehow my job as a step mom because he has a mom? Oh if it is- than can you ask why it took an hour to get a hold of her when his neurosurgeon wanted him in the ER right away because he was showing signs of shunt failure? Oh wait I am just the stepmom who was changing the child's (11 at the time) diaper and helping manually close his rectum because the surgery messed that up! But - he has a mom she was just MIA! Oh - just like she decided to stay skiing 30 minutes from the hospital when he went in this winter for emergency surgery and didnt even bother to call and check on him! I was home with ss10 and my own child! But- I Guess that is my responsibility! Is it also my responsibility to make sure they have food, doctors appts, the DD services Ss13 needs?
I would not be angry at all.
I would not be angry at all. At the end of the day it is the parents actions that show the kids who really is the better person (parent).
Because his kids were in the car is crap!
I disagree. That is exactly why it is right for him to have helped.
It speaks to your husband's
It speaks to your husband's character, and the fact you're mad about it speaks to yours.
Take a good look at this. WHY does it bother you so?
DH was in a similar situation with BM, and he helped her. (TWICE.) I stood there patiently while he did. He's a good man. It's why I love him. I certainly wouldn't bitch him out over it. I do not believe we should allow others' actions to affect our own. Just because BM has been a bitch, doesn't mean DH needs to be an asshole back.
IMO
We both always help anyone
We both always help anyone who needs it. But- we do not surround ourselves with self centered idiots. What example does it show the kids that their mom neglects them and constantly disrespects us and then gets help? He did not have jumper cables so what was it his business or problem to help her. She is a grown woman and needs to do it on her own.
Wow- at ss10 poetry reading!
Wow- at ss10 poetry reading! Womb donor isn't here - shocking since he is in 5 th grade and has never made it to one? Oh wait I missed one because I gave birth 4 days earlier and ss10 still teases me about it.