It never ends. My boyfriend begged me to meet his grown up daughter25. I was right about the bad feeling I had about meeting her. She still wanted to monopolize her daddy 100%. She would not let go of her daddy, so I let go of her daddy for seven years. One year ago, her daddy and I became friends again. I had forgotten a lot about his daughter's previous behavior (then 25 yrs old, now 32 yrs old). In the last year, the two separate times I saw her, she glared at me(Both times were drop ins, because she had to see me to play her mind games, and assert her dominance/control). Also she still has Passive Aggressive behavior problems. Her daddy left the TV room to get toys for her baby, and she questions me about my job. At this time, I was laid off from my job. She said, How is your job? I answered, Good. At this time she glareas at me. My job is none of her business. I have reason to believe her daddy told her I was laid off from my job, even though I asked him not to tell her. Her daddy contributes zero dollars to my expenses, but her daddy still pays ALL her expenses. Of course when my boyfriend (her daddy) returns with toys for her baby, she stops questionsing my about my job. Passive aggressive. The problems never end with step daughters.

It works lots better now that HE is the one telling her to stop, to clean up, to go do this or that. I let him know when she is out of line, every.single.time. I did then, and I do now. She is manipulative, acts like she hasn't done anything to offend me ( eye-rolling, giving me attitude, being a brat when he isn't around to see or hear her). I call her on all of it. I tell him about it. I told the counselor, and she validated that yes, they do these things, and yes I have every right to not be happy about it. DH listened to her, surprisingly. He makes SD go to bed at a certain time, doesn't let her push back much if at all. And she doesn't even try to sit between us on the sofa now, she stays in her room usually. Its all a game to these kids, IMO.

^^^^^^^^^This was EXACTLY my SD! She was 12 when we first met and was literally controlling DH's every move. They had "daddy/daughter" days every Saturday where it was just the two of them all day long together without me. She'd constantly call him into her room for a private chat. She'd sit on his lap constantly. She'd hold his hand in a lover's handhold, fingers interlaced. She'd spoon with him on the floor watching movies. She interrupt our conversations, step in between us, freaked out and would scream, pout and cry if he paid me a lick more attention than her.

It was horrible the first few months of our relationship. Once we started to get serious and talked about moving in together, she had a fit and called a "family meeting" with her, DH and BM regarding mine and her father's relationship and how us showing affection in front of her made her uncomfortable and he should stop. Well, the next day, he brings up their meeting with me (after I told him it was NOT a good idea) and says maybe we should cool it around her since it makes her so uncomfortable! I was floored. At that moment, we'd been dating 6 months and I looked right at him and said "I'm so glad you, your EX WIFE and your CHILD are all in agreement with how OUR relationship is to change, *I*; however, am not". And walked.

Didn't answer his texts, emails, phone calls, nothing. He went straight back over to his ex's home and set them both straight. From that day forward, there has been no more of SD's attention seeking behavior, no more mini wife, no more "my daddy" no more "daddy/daughter only days", no more private chats. And guess what? SD14 decided momma's place was SO much better and moved in with her full time back in June! yeah, cause mom doesn't discipline her, there's no rules or boundaries there either.

These kids sicken me nowadays! I mean seriously? If my daughter (also 14) ever acted this way I'd have a fit!

Hence the name "mini wife" - I'm telling you - he needs to stop this shit now or she's just gonna sink her claws in deeper and you'll be the one that gets the shitty end of the stick!

Oh I feel for you. I'd die if SD lived with us and I'm praying every day that it never happens.

Good luck. If he doesn't believe you about SD's antics, show him this thread. You can also private message me. It only gets worse if the FATHERS don't intervene!

Good luck. I feel you cant go wrong speaking up. Its your life, your house, your relationship - you have every right to make it as peaceful and liveable as possible.

When I tell DH things, I try to take all of my emotion out of it, just state the facts and how/why its not acceptable. If my son did this to him, how would he feel? That type of thing. Let me know how it goes

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

HOLY HELL! I'm so glad my DH nipped SD14 in the bud with her mini wife status immediately and effectively before she turns into the nightmarish hell you describe.

I could still see her doing this, even though she has been estranged from us for months now. She still has it in her although he shuts her down every time and she pouts and goes off to her mom's whining about how dadddeeeee loves Mel more than her. Yeah, well so sorry kiddo - get the fuck over yourself and treat us with respect and maybe you'll be welcomed back into our home, but until then, keep your head planted squarely up your momma's welcoming ass and leave us the fuck alone. We prefer it that way!

Glad to hear your DH recovered and so sorry you had to deal with the evil weirdos.