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FSS9 vandalized BM's car

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Well FDH got a phone call today from BM. Apparently fss9, took a rock and scratched bm's car because he was mad at her for something. You know, he probably would have gotten away with it seeing as his lying skills have improved; but the brilliant child not only scratched his first name into her car, but his last name as well. SHe then asked FDH, "what are WE going to do about this". He said "we arn't going to do anything". He did it to your car on your time. I am still waiting for the phone call from her saying he should pay for half of it.

Wondering

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I have been starting to keep a log about things going on with bm for when fdh takes her back for more custody. One of the biggest problems are the people who are constantly moving in and out of her house. Last year she had 3 different men who moved in with her within a week that she began dating them. One ended up back in jail for being driving under the influence while on probation and another she constantly fought with and he moved in and out of her house at least 3 times in the last 4 months of the year.

FSS9 asking about me and his mom and custody agreement

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I have been trying to smooth out my relationship with fss9. He annoys me a lot and our relationship has been touchy lately so when I said I was going to go see a movie instead of going on the boat ride and he asked to go I said yes. We actually had a really good time and loved the movie, Snow White and the Huntsman. On the way home he asked why me and his mom dont get a long. I told him that I respect her because she is his mom, but I dont agree with a lot of thing she does.

OMG... Seriously.. If these kids are only yours why the hell is FDH paying so much in child support.

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SO for ss9 birthday this year we want to rent and blow up water slide. We never have him on his birthday because the breast cancer walk is always the weekend before his birthday and CO says we get him for the breast cancer walk so mom automatically gets him the next weekend. (FDH forgot to put birthdays in CO).

Waiting for the skids to get here

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So I am trying to figure out if I can deal with what FDH did in the past few weeks or if this wedding needs to be called off. I am trying to get homework done and the bm is supposed to be dropping off the skids soon. Of course they had a game of some sort so it is running into his 4 days a month he has them. That really bugs me but from now on I am just going to remind myself, NOT MY KIDS. If he cared that she was stepping into his tiny amount of time with them then he would do something. It s one thing if they were each interested in ONE sport and they got to do it.

Why do I think this will end badly?

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So I getting ready to confront fdh (when he gets out of the shower) about his behavior over the past few weeks as he seems to be under the impression that everything he has done, I will just eventually get over. He is SERIOUSLY mistaken. If he shrugs his shoulders at me about it, I may turn into a bigger psycho than bm. UGH! I cant take another day of him not acknowledging that his behavior is acceptable. I have never been the name calling type but I have some crucial names I would love to call him.

Seriously!? Am I so wrong?!

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So I am engaged to my fiancee and ever since I met him, my life has been focused on him and his kids. I set up their rooms, bought their clothes, play with them, take them to do fun things and anything else I can do to make them feel at home when they are with us. I have put up with plenty of BS over the years because he would not be responsible or stand up to BM. He has grown up a lot too. So during the years I have been working full time (at one point 3 jobs) and going to school full time.

New

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So I am joining step talk.org so I have people to talk to. I am getting married October 13, 2012. I will inherit a step son and a step daughter by doing so. I love my future step kids, but I feel they have not had proper parenting and their behavior is atrocious at times. I feel like I have to be the wicked step mother because I require manners and respect at the house. These kids seem to think a trip to target means it is time to run around and act like lunatics. That may be so with mom but that is not behavior I will tolerate with ANY child in my care. I am all about having fun.