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Submitted by desp4advice on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 7:07am

I have been with my boyfriend for two years and have witnessed some abnormal behavior from his eighteen year old daughter. She had done things like play with his chest hair, ride on the front of the shopping cart, wipe her eye boogers on him, ask for piggyback rides, want him to feel her legs when she has and hasn't shaved her legs, feed him from her plate, put her boobs on the back of his neck while massaging his shoulders, and kiss him on the lips. My 14 year old daughter, his oldest daughter, my neighbors, and me all think this is very disturbing behavior. He gives her every thing she wants and is defensive when negative things are said about her. He has three daughters and he favors the eighteen year old (the youngest). How can I get him to realize that her behavior is not normal for an eighteen year old?

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Submitted by oneoffour on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 7:45am

Why would you be with someone who encourages and accepts this abnormal behaviour? What is attractive about him? I would be telling him his behaviour with his daughter is wrong and you cannot let your daughter be around something so incestuous. By staying you condone his and her sick behaviour. It sounds like they got caught in the game playing when she was a lot younger and he never stopped it because in his eye it keeps her little.

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Submitted by dontcallmestepmom on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 9:41am

Does she have some kind of learning/cognitive disability/delay? I agree these behaviors are very odd and disturbing, but they also make her sound extremely immature for her age. I am just wondering if something else is going on. Regardless, your bf needs to stop allowing her to do these things. But, with him being defensive and favoring her, that won't stop anytime soon, I am afraid.

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Submitted by Anne Boleyn on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 7:20pm

I don't think riding on the front of the shopping cart is a big deal for 8. She's still a child even if she looks more mature to early puberty. But the rest.... gross.

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Submitted by luchay on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 8:15pm

LOL no at 8 none of it would be a big deal, but the sd is an 18 year old woman, not an 8 year old child.