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Bonfire Night 2011

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Submitted by De_rigeur on Sat, 11/05/2011 - 5:13pm

Bonfire night - 5th November- didn't go like I would have wished. Took my partner and skids to see a fireworks display after us spending a family day out. Came home and had ice cream together but when SS11 launched off on a mind bendingly long winded and dull ill-thought through description of a Top Gear episode he had watched earlier I just flipped and told him to be quiet. This was of course so rude and in front of all Skids made me look a total @rick. He just has this stream of conciousness style of monologue where wven if nobody's listening he'll just waffle on and on. In my childhood kids were just expected to be seen and not heard and after having him and his twin just screw about and interrupt all day I was at my limit of tolerance. Now my partner and I are in separate rooms, she's furious with me and I feel like a really bad person. Will I ever have a quiet time in the evening without having to yell for it? Yes I will - next Friday when she takes them to visit their father and I get the whole night to myself. I wish I'd been able to keep my calm til they'd gone to bed though, then it wouldn't have facked over the good stuff that did happen. Sad

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Submitted by sonja on Sat, 11/05/2011 - 6:39pm

Lord know the feeling! Its easy to loose it after youve held it in for so long! I have to give hints to my FDH to get him to realize that SD4 is seriously crossing the line.

I know its the little stuff that bothers me and I try to ignore it but eventually it all adds up and I cant believe he still hasnt said anything to her.

Other times I step in and whatever flies out of my mouth. Most of the time recently hes been going along with what I say, as its clear that Im at my limit.

As your skids are older its a lot harder for you them to let go whatever you say, but Id just have a talk with your DW about what happened and apologize to the skid if you find that necessary as well. They should know by now that things are said that arent meant the way they come out.. but you never know who holds grudges and who doesnt.

Hopefully it shall pass?

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Submitted by De_rigeur on Sat, 11/05/2011 - 7:09pm

I think with some careful comments tomorrow the damage will be mended this time, I must condition myself or my relationship will be no more

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Submitted by giveitago on Sat, 11/05/2011 - 7:15pm

I snapped one time...I said 'Boo phukking hoo' to SD when she was 13 and kept bitching about what a horrible life she had because I would not give in to her. She called her probation officer on me! On my bithday the probation officer called a meeting and arrested SD for the various violations of the order the judge laid out. Happy birthday ME!

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Submitted by De_rigeur on Wed, 06/20/2012 - 4:30pm

Well sorry to say things never got any better, despite loads of soul searching I just couldn't be the one to change so totally when everyone else seemed to be OK to just stay as they are. Very frustrating and a real shame but after 3 years I've moved back into my single accommodation that the navy offer. My other half and I are still friends just about but I can't say I miss her kids. I see my own son once a month for a weekend and our relationship is strong and fulfilling. Swings and roundabouts.