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ddakan's picture

Submitted by ddakan on Fri, 01/21/2011 - 8:00pm

Issue #1:

me, SM, bought ss20 a 6K dodge ram truck in her name because dh was too busy working to do it and because BM only serves herself.

So since BM is mad at me....ss20 is a week late on his 7th payment of $300! It usually arrives on time, but since the blow up at Christmas...BM is being a butthole.

I told DH...he just said..."oh." Anyway the truck is registered and titled in my name until he pays it to us, but it irritates me that I can use 2000 of my college money to put a down payment on this truck and then BM has the nerve to tell me to stay the eff out of sss lives!

Issue #2:

I told DH, "arent you sick of ss17 not getting a high school diploma this year?" He told me that ss17 just enrolled himself in an alternative program to graduate....I am literally SHOCKED. He said the kid also finished the court requirements that I busted my ass helping him with. This is a GREAT achievement in my book. He'll be getting his diploma "someday" and he can then go to Cali and attend his "one weekend" of training at pot growing college and become a medical marijuana grower like he's always dreamed of :/

What do yall think about these things??????

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oneoffour's picture

Submitted by oneoffour on Fri, 01/21/2011 - 8:33pm

First, I would let SS20 and BM know that unless the money is in your little hot hand in cash by Monday 9am EST you are reporting the vehicla as stolen.

At one stage my SSthen-17 thought he would spend the rest of his life in Jamaica on the beach smoking pot and drinking rum. He is now working towards joining the Marines later this year.

But in your case I would push the idea to the hilt "Great! What a wonderful business idea seeing it is medically legal out there. But to make it profitable you might want to take a business managment course." Dooes the idea of him moving AWAY to California escape you?

ddakan's picture

Submitted by ddakan on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 11:07am

Wow, that is quite a change....Jamaica/Marines. I'd be happy if the little bugger wants to go to California. I lived out there 4 years in San Jose and he ISN'T going to be pleased with the cost of living, since he can't even get a job in Texas doing ANYTHING.

ddakan's picture

Submitted by ddakan on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 10:56am

We ought to buy them BOTH tickets out there, on the same plane, with side by side reserved seating and get them a hotel for a weekend and $500!!!! Hopefully they wouldn't have enough cash to get home!!!! I think it is in Berkley and it is called Osterdam University. It's hardly a college, it's a weekend class in horticulture and teaches them about hydroponics, seed types...blah blah blah. I'm just surprised the kid is in the alternative program after being out of school from October 2010 until last week!!

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Fri, 01/21/2011 - 11:08pm

Tell your SS that if he doesnt make his payment you are taking the truck. Make him believe that you are serious. Most likely he will come up with the payment because he wont want to risk loosing the vehicle. If he does call your bluff then really take the truck back. Keep it until he pays up and make him pay a month in advance plus charge him interest/penalty. Give him the truck back but tell them if it happens again you will be keeping it permanently and selling it to someone else.

ddakan's picture

Submitted by ddakan on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 11:05am

I DO have the right to question this since my name is on the dotted line! I will ask DH to call SS and see what is going on with the payment.

I am not allowed to have contact with SS20 because DH says they all hate me and that I cause trouble.

Now isn't that some shit? I can furnish a truck, but I can't talk to the kid who I bought it for.

These are the times I want to skip town!

Whateva's picture

Submitted by Whateva on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 1:11pm

Hi ddakan
I guess not knowing your history, or all of the dynamics here, my first question was why would you make such an investment for kids that don't even care for you? This is seemingly an avoidable situation.

These scenarios just add more evidence that sometimes not engaging or bending over backwards for skids is the best fit for me and will probably save money on execedrin migraine tablets.

Good luck! hope he pays up

Whateva

ddakan's picture

Submitted by ddakan on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 11:01am

? I'm not a named insured and I'm sure he is only carrying liability in his name.

I know about the registration and me being liable, but I hadn't thought of the fact that I needed to be on the insurance too.

NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED. This I well know. SS20 has always resented us because of BM. We did this deed to do something big for SS20 to help him get started with his life. He had passed all the entrance qualifications for entering the Border Patrol and we had to continue working until his 1st anniversary at Sam's in order to comply with the requirement of having a full time job for a year.

sixteensmom's picture

Submitted by sixteensmom on Sun, 01/23/2011 - 2:09pm

Yes this is exactly right. He has to have full coverage and you listed as lien holder. If u on the title u need to have INS coverage as well.

buttercookie's picture

Submitted by buttercookie on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 9:08am

You can't report the truck stolen if he's making payments to you, you can get in trouble for filing a false report so don't take that advice because it's not stolen. If the truck is in your name send SS a letter explaining it'll be sold if he doesn't make payments, then you can call the police and tell them he took it and isn't making payments as agreed and you need it back, they will help you then because then it will become a situation where it's taken without permission, but still not technically stolen.They might tell you it's a civil matter depending on where you live and you may have to sue SS if he doesn't pay you if they won't help. As far as the insurance, that's a nightmare and the reason my SS had his car in his name before he left. If your SS gets into trouble or in an accident you can be on the hook financially. You tried to be nice but it back fired. You need to get that truck out of your name if your SS is going to be driving it.

ddakan's picture

Submitted by ddakan on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 11:11am

Thanks for talking to me about this. It relieves my stress knowing that yall give me perspective. I'm going to check the mail for the check, then I'll have DH call the kid and check on the hold up.

Someone asked what BM had to do with it. I think she mails the check to us, because the writing is in what I believe to be her chickenscratch. SS20 still lives at home with BM and he works many hours at Sam's Club.

It could be that he gave it to her to mail, and that she is dragging her feet on it to be a bitch.....wow, that's a surprise. :/

Eyes Wide Open's picture

Submitted by Eyes Wide Open on Sun, 01/23/2011 - 1:11pm

Sounds like he's driving YOUR truck! If he can't pay for it, go and get it! He won't like it, but I bet he'll come up with the $$ for payments really quick! Sometimes you just gotta do that "tough love" thing, you know? If that truck is in your name, you have every legal right to take it back. If you need to, call the cops. You'll get your point across.