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Submitted by Dc3sc2 on Sun, 06/13/2021 - 6:39am

Ridiculous I know but feeling like I'm going to be the bad guy here...

Around 4 years ago before I met my dh me and my ds used to play a computer game together (classic sega game) so I was shopping and I came across a T-shirt with the main cartoon character on the front, it was a men's T-shirt but thought why not for lounging around the house.

When dh and I first moved in together he spied this T-shirt and decided he also really liked it so for a year or so it was an ongoing joke if I wore my T-shirt he would say "why are you wearing my T-shirt?" And vice versa. Was just silliness I know. 
Then sd13 wanted a T-shirt to wear for bed one day she took that T-shirt and ended up taking it home to bms, for the past 6 month sd10 has been wearing this T-shirt every single day. This large men's T-shirt that comes down to her knees and falls off her shoulders. Going shopping...she's wearing the T-shirt, park...she's wearing the T-shirt, bm took her on holiday all the pics she is wearing this T-shirt. Usually paired with joggers that are far too short and boots. Looking like she's homeless or something. 
Yesterday she didn't have this T-shirt on so I said "seen as your not wearing my T-shirt today does that mean I can have it back?" She said sd13 gave her it I replied it wasn't sd13s to give so she gave me the T-shirt back. 
I thought it was a good thing for her parents because now she will have no choice but to wear her own clothes that fit her. Nope. Mummy is buying her one of her own 

Have a feeling I'm now going to be the most awful person ever for taking sd10s favourite thing away from her. Even though it was mine. Even though it doesn't fit her. Even though I never said she could even borrow it. 

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Submitted by JRI on Sun, 06/13/2021 - 7:24am

Good old steplife where every normal action is scrutinized.  Sigh.   She's 13, she will probably be over it soon and on to something else.  Is there any way you can make a joke out of it?  Like, "who has custody of tshirt today?  What is tshirt's visitstion schedule?  How much support must be paid for tshirt?:"

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Submitted by Wicked stepmo. on Sun, 06/13/2021 - 8:28am

I can relate. SO wanted a jacket so I bought it for him. Before he ever got to wear it OSD took it for her own and never returned it. I was annoyed because I bought that for SO not OSD. I could care less if she took something from SO he bought, but am annoyed it was something I bought as a gift.

The other day I saw pics if YSD wearing a tee shirt that was mine. I know this because it was from the gym I work at part time.  Which again annoyed me because we never did laundry together so that meant she went in my room and took it.

My issue is we don't have that kind of relationship so I have an issue with her snooping through my stuff. OSD used to do the same thing. I was always finding my things in her room. If something went missing I knew exactly where to look.

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Sun, 06/13/2021 - 11:07am

Typical skid move. Somehow they think everything in their parent's house is subject to being theirs. 

A big problem is the parent. Why didn't her dad get the shirt back? Or let her know taking something of yours without asking is not appropriate? 

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Submitted by Dc3sc2 on Mon, 06/14/2021 - 3:09am

I don't think he really thought about it because sd13 had it first then she gave it to sd10 so because it wasn't taken from us directly it didn't enter his brain. I honestly don't care about the T-shirt that much it's because I'm going to be the bad guy. I did however say to my Dh we will see what the new favourite T-shirt looks like and if it worse (hard to imagine) I'll give her it back.