SD8 has been having issues respecting people’s boundaries and privacy. SD12 and SD11 have made comments about her not leaving them alone when they are in the bathroom or when they are in their room trying to change or when they simply want to be alone. She never shuts up so I understand them wanting to be alone for a few min.

SD8 will sit outside a locked door and talk to your through the door. I have never had to lock doors before because a shut door is shut for a reason. When she is around you have to lock the door.

SD8 has also had other issues that I am trying to figure out as well. I was home with her alone one day and she was going to use my bathroom to pee, not a big deal so I left the bathroom as I was in it getting ready and she begged me to stay. I said why do I need to be in here with you, she tried to tell me she was afraid. I asked her afraid of what. There is nothing to be afraid of, NOTHING. Asked her why all of a sudden she felt she needed me to be with her in order to pee. I did end up leaving but what is with this kid. BM has recently had another kid. Could she be regressing because of this?

She is set to come again on Saturday, and this time she will be here for 4 weeks straight. Not sure how I will handle this. I might be signing up for over time or get another job. I love her and all my SD's but I don't know how to deal with her. She is clingy and does not shut up ever. It's worse when she is alone because she doesn't have to fight for wording from anyone else. How do I tell her to "shut up" and leave people alone without it getting back to BM that I and SO are mean. I really don't care at this time but this kid has such sensitive feelings that you call her name in an assertive tone and she turns on the water works.

When she was here last week I tried something new, ignoring her. This worked for a little while then I looked like a bad person in front of my neighbors. SD's were all playing in the pool. SD12, SD11, SD8 and SD3. We were waiting for SO to get home from work and join us. All the girls were swimming and playing some sort of made up game (water creatures or something) SD8 got upset because she didn't get her way and told them that she was going to play on her own. I heard her say this. Then she was moping by me... "Hi DASKRA" "Hi SD8" (I continue to read my book as she puts on the puppy eyes) she then goes to back into the pool and swims, she sits on the edge of the pool by my chair staring up at me with a sad face saying my name again, I ignored her acted like I could not hear her. She came and sat by me again “what ya doing DASKRA” “Reading, go play” She then was sitting on the edge of the pool starting to work up the tears, I told her “you work out your own problems” she then started to try to talk to her sisters about being included. She tried to tell them they were excluding her. I let them handle it, she didn’t like what they offered so she didn’t want to play again. She then sat on the edge of the pool and turned on the water works. (According to SD11 and SD12 she can make herself cry on cue and does it often) I then told her to stop crying and if she didn’t she would go inside and take a nap.

She started to play with them again. None of them want to play with her because she is whinny and needy and always has to have things her way and be first on everything. How do I handle this. I don’t blame her sisters for this, I can’t stand her most days, but they should not be mean to her either. I feel stuck. She continued to try and be first and got mad if she wasn’t, I finally told her to knock it off. She doesn’t need to be the boss or be first all the time.

We are planning on sitting down SD’s and having a talk when they are all here again but how do we handle this issue?