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DarkStar's picture

Brief back history....SO got full custody of his 3 kids, now SS11, SD12, and SD17, about 4 years ago. BM just called him up out of the blue and said, "I can't handle them anymore, will you take them?"

That first year or so was a MESS. The kids were feral, SO had guilty daddy issues, and I was well-intentioned, but way overstepping my bounds. SDnow17 in particular was the most problematic. She was diagnosed as ODD (aka spoiled rotten) and was the snottiest, sneaky, lying little brat I had ever met.
Fast forward a few years and she is much better, doing much better in school, and has had the same boyfriend for over a year (no need to sneak out to meet him anymore).
BUT......is she REAAAAAAAALLLY that much better? She has NO responsibilities at home. SO feels that between school and her extra-curriculars it's just "too much" to give her chores. I completely disagree, but his monkeys.....
She will STILL argue and talk back on EVERY conversation. SO calls it "bantering", I call it "disrespectful" and I won't put up with it. I leave the room when she is "bantering" with her Dad and I'll end conversations when she starts up with me.
She doesn't sneak out anymore, because she's had the same boyfriend for over a year! She doesn't do drugs or alcohol (thank goodness), she's a total hypochondriac and thinks she'll throw up or OD the first time she tries anything. Works for me!
90% of the time when she is home she is in her cave (room) and rarely comes out.

So, of course, things with SD17 are better.....she's never home and when she is, she's in her room!

The point of all this is just to tell a story that happened recently. SD17 stays at home in the summer with the younger skids, SD12 and SS11. The younger ones CANNOT be left home alone, they are both immature for their age.

SD12 just got her first period last week! She's been going through puberty for about a year now, so we've been prepping her to be ready....first bra, deoderant, the whole nine yards.....how does a 12 year old girl have such NASTY BO??????? But I digress....
SD12 texted SO that her period started. SO was at work so he texted SD17 and asked her to help out. And since they are going to BM's this weekend, he asked SD17 to talk to her about the hygiene part, spotting, keeping a calendar and tracking.....this is her response....I took out all the "like" and "you know" and "well" that takes up about half of every sentence.

"Gross, why do I have to help her? I really can't help educate her cuz I'm on BC so my periods are like, fake, and not real ones."

SO's response, "You really need to educate yourself before telling that same story to anyone else."

OMG...what a loon. I really really hope that it was just some lame excuse she came up with on the fly and that she really doesn't think that.

Hey, SD, you can go off your BC. Next time you and your boyfriend have sex, just jump up and down a lot afterwards.....then you won't get pregnant. Or just have him pull out. Oh yeah, and you can't get preggo on your period either....or when you're breastfeeding....any other old wives' tales?

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WokeUpABug's picture

Well... Ok. The truth is the bleeding that happens when you take the week of sugar pills is known as a "withdrawal bleed." It's not a true "period" in the normal sense. How it's different honestly escapes me but that's the dogma. Anyway, none of this explains why your SD can't help her sister out. Her excuse is ridiculous.

DarkStar's picture

Tommar, I usually disagree with you (unless you have Fireball) but in this case I will agree with part of what you say.

I am about 80% sure that she really doesn't believe that, she just came up with the first lame excuse that came out of her mouth.

I agree that the parents in this situation have done a piss poor job as far as sex ed for the kids. No talks, no discussions, nothing. SO had to go with SD12 to get her first bra. He did ask BM cuz you would THINK that is something a mother would want to do with her daughter, but BM couldn't be bothered.
When SD12 started reaching puberty, I asked SO if he was going to have a birds and bees talk with her. His response absolutely blew my mind...."No, the school will teach her that."
And SO got REALLY mad at my response, "And if she has any questions, I'm sure her first boyfriend will be happy to explain it to her in GREAT.DETAIL."