O/T-ish....A Day of Firsts
Remember all those "firsts" in your lives?
First friend to get married
First friend to have a baby
First friend to get divorced
First friend to get re-married
Etc, etc, etc....
Well, my friend C is the first friend to be a grandma! Her son knocked up his slightly skanky girlfriend.
It's a little shocking, but here is the question that I want to pose to you all.....
C was telling me the whole story about grandbaby and says that she didn't find out about the baby until SIX WEEKS before the baby was due. Why so long before the big reveal? GF claims she DIDN'T KNOW SHE WAS PREGNANT. She apparently has always been irregular, claims she continued to take BC and have semi-regular periods throughout her pregnancy. At some point she went to a doctor and SURPRISE!
Now, there have been oodles of stories about girls/women going into labor having no idea they were pregnant. In this particular situation with my friend, I have serious doubts about this. The girl wasn't raised in isolation, they are both about 20 years old. Even if she still got periods or spotting, your body goes through so many changes when you are PG, I just cannot fathom how you wouldn't know! I don't know the situation well enough, but either she is manipulating the hell out of the situation or she was in complete denial....I'm leaning toward manipulating. My friend C and her ex do quite well for themselves, while this girl and her family are more of "wrong side of the tracks."
Thoughts? Please also share your stories, those are always my favorite! 
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Just a couple more weeks
Just a couple more weeks until your 2nd trimester! Isn't that when the ickiness is supposed to go away and you start glowing?
Hang in there Lady!
I also wondered why the dad (C's son) had no clue either.....but he is a 20 year old guy and not the sharpest tool in the shed......
I also wonder at what she thought she was doing by not telling anyone and claiming she didn't know until 7 months in. What would you gain from that?
I was sick until 17 weeks &
I was sick until 17 weeks & there was no glowing 2nd time. It's lies! Unless you smother yourself in glow worms.
I'm helping you set your
I'm helping you set your expectations.
Hey, its a Wiley one you're
Hey, its a Wiley one you're carrying there
I also wonder at what she
I also wonder at what she thought she was doing by not telling anyone and claiming she didn't know until 7 months in. What would you gain from that? I can't think of how that would benefit her at all!
I did a little Googling and
I did a little Googling and there is something called a cryptic pregnancy that describes this. A lot of the stories involve women that had other health issues though, so when they felt sick or felt "off", they just assumed it was due to their existing medical issue.
Not the case with this girl here, though.
And to add to the story.....mom and dad decided to give the baby up for adoption. The baby was born on a Thursday, the adoptive couple took him home Friday. Mom changed her mind on Sunday and they got the baby back on Monday and are keeping him. Dad dropped out of college and now he, mom, and baby live with grandpa (my friend C's ex)
I feel so bad for those adoptive parents.
Meh, I was one of those weird
Meh, I was one of those weird ones who had basically ZERO pregnancy symptoms.... other than missing my period and boob soreness. But if I was spotting, had irregular periods anyway etc like this girl says, I would have been clueless. I never had a second of sickness, tiredness, excess peeing, NOTHING... and I didn't even start to really show AT ALL until 7 months. I have a picture of me at a horse show at 6.5 months preggo, riding in a class with a very form fitting shirt on and you really could not even tell I was pregnant. Hell, I never even had to buy maternity pants/jeans.. I guess everyone is different and her story sounds like it could be fairly legit to me. I'm leaning more towards the denial side... or maybe she was just scared to tell anyone for fear of people being angry with her etc?
My friend didn't know until 5
My friend didn't know until 5 months... When she started to show. She was really fit, on the pill, and irregular. But I thought the same thing.. No way could she have not known! But I believe her.
My friend didn't know until 5
My friend didn't know until 5 months... When she started to show. She was really fit, on the pill, and irregular. But I thought the same thing.. No way could she have not known! But I believe her.
I had a very low maintenance
I had a very low maintenance pregnancy - no morning sickness - very little aches pains, etc. There in no way you get 7 months along without knowing something. I had a co-worker who had a baby without knowing she was pregnant. - She did know something was wrong (she had fibroids & was trying to avoid surgery) & even had an ultrasound when she had to be 5 months or so (baby was behind fibroid).
I don't buy not knowing. A
I don't buy not knowing. A baby's foot stuck in your rib cage is a feeling like no other and there is NO WAY anyone could mistake that feeling for something else. Plus the kicking and rolling, I've never had indigestion or stomach rumbling that felt like that. Even with no other symptoms, I call BS.