Have to vent..Thanks for listening everyone!!!!

Well this morning DH husband told me he can not keep SD16 away from BM so we will see what happens next week....

OK ? If your child is being hurt, has anxiety, cries alot, would you send them to the person who makes all these symptoms worse? NOOOOOO!!!!! But not my DH...He says BM will be calling soon to smooth talk her and what can he do..It is up to SD...

I'm sorry you are the parent, she is the child, of course she loves her mother, but you need to say to SD, I know you love mom but this is for your own good and when she can straighten her shit out then we can move forward and you can go visit but until then I'm sorry I am just thinking of your well being.....Does this happen of course not so I am sick of worrying about a child that is not even mine. Whatever BM dishes out deal with it because your not doing anything about it anyway so why am I worried?

I officially disengage, even though it is so hard being the mom I am I can not sit back and just watch this mother, who should never have been a mother, do what she is doing to this child, 16 or not she is still a child....I close my eyes and just hope DH opens his....What else can I do she is not my child???