Well things have definately took a turn for the better with SD16...Since that complete horror show we had last weekend SD16 has been soooo different. She has been helping me, she has been so nice, its like having a different kid. We went out sat night and SD16 and BS14 stayed home. Sd did not make a big deal like she usually does. Sunday we had a cooking day and Sd16 was with me all day. Sat and sunday she was also with me all day. We went for a walk, went shopping, cooked, it was so nice for a change. DH was out sat till about 12 then home for the rest of the weekend. But took naps, watched TV, worked in the garage, did his own thing while i was with the kids. Yesterday had day off DH worked, went for another walk with SD, BS14 was all set with that and he had a friend over so I did not exist (which is fine of course) but what bothered me is DH gets out of work at 3:30, he told me he was going to stop at his dads, which he does do everyday after work. That is fine but he called me at 3:30 and i told him SD was still there (she was going to BM for dinner and then comming back) so he says OH I thought she would be gone already i said no she is going around 5...So he talkled to her and then said i'll be home soon...So 4;30 rolled around and still no DH....so I told SD to get ready and i would take her to BM's...So I did...I get back home and DH is still not there...he walked in at 6 like nothing...OK whatever did not make a big deal of it...Now tomorrow i am taking the day off to take BS14 and SD16 to Boston for the day and we are hitting the science museum and I would like to go to the art museum if we have time. We are taking the train in.....Rest of week I am working...So this morning DH tells me that friday night he is going to work in the garage and sat working on a friends truck in the garage....I was like OK I thought we would do dinner with the kids and go out.....He tells me I need to work in garage....So in other words i am with the kids while you do whatever you want. My mother tells me this morning not to let DH take advantage of me with SD....I am noticing that since things have been going good this week i have been the one who has taken over everything. Sd talks to me now about BM and if she will go there to visit, and if friends can come over, when before she never did. Now it seems DH is leaving everything to me and doing nothing....Glad we are all moving forward but i do not want him to think everything is on me now.....How do i come across and not look like a bitch...and i am not to happy he made plans for him for the weekend and just thinks I will be sitting home doing nothing....My BS14 will be going to his dads and I am not thrilled I am the one who needs to worry where Sd will be. Kind of pissed at him right now...