Dont get it!!!
OK so I read everyones blog and not understand some that one parent has a specific time and day to call their children. I am divorced and my X can call his children anytime, anyday he wants. Why would people be such idiots to not let there child talk to there mother or father when they want...People grow up ready!!! Getting along with your X is in the best interest of the children. Believe me my X is a complete Douche but he is and always will be my childrens father and unfortunatley there is nothing I can do about that, so get along is my only option. It works to....We have our disagreements but overall when it comes to the kids we try to be on the same page. Its just easier this way. I dont want all that drama, why would anyone....
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I do understand there are
I do understand there are different circumstances but overall I cant imagine fighting with my X anymore than we did when we first got separated...That was just horrible
so when you disagree on
so when you disagree on something, who wins? What I mean is, you can go into it with the mind-set that you're going to get along because it's in the best interest of the child, but it just doesn't always work that way. Some people are unrelenting, and think that their way is the only way, even if it's wrong, sad but true.
Also sometimes getting along
Also sometimes getting along for the sake of the children equals drama. At least in our case it does. There is no reasoning with crazy BM in our case.
Same here. I tried for six
Same here. I tried for six years to be nice to evil bitch! I even got her and her husband Christmas presents and not crappy ones I went out of my way to get then things they would like. I was good enough to be her every day daycare and doctor appointment runner for these six years as well, but once we moved the evil bitch sends me an evil evil mean email telling me how mush she has always hated me and how much the skids hate me and if I don't walk on eggshells when the skids are here for their next visit she will make sure they don't come back for another visit.
So I agree getting along for the sake of the kids is nice but in my case it was all for nothing, oh and we even got together as a family every other week for dinner. ALL of us me DH BM skids and stepdad. we took turns cooking it even.
So all my effort was for nothing and I caution anyone going into this thinking it will all be roses and love!
I agree...Like I said we have
I agree...Like I said we have our disagreements but we have to try to work them out or we will constantly be fighting...My X is a real winner but when he disagrees I plead my case he pleads his we agree to disagree and try our best to make it work....Its not easy but its better than fighting and not getting anywhere.. ya know? X's suck I wont say they dont and when children are involved its much worse. My DH does not get along with his X at all....and it gets him no where...He refuses to talk to her sometimes. My responce is always where is that getting you...NO WHERE!!!!! just agravated more... LOL its a horrible circle...
But the whole talking on the phone I just think is petty...There is so much more to fight about...
Is your ex remarried? do your
Is your ex remarried? do your bkids have a step-mom?
Obviously...What a
Obviously...What a bitch...and what satisfaction does this give her? I am a crazy bitch satisfaction....These people are unreal...I dont get it!!!!! Thats why I say GET ALONG PEOPLE!!!!! Life is to short for this BS...Move on with your life seriously!!
I've been a member here for a
I've been a member here for a while and I think I may be able to answer your question.
In some cases, it's simply a case of distance/time zones. If the NCP lives in another state, a set schedule (similar to visitation nights) is set up for telephonic parenting time. It's not that the bio-parents aren't cooperating, it's just easier to schedule certain nights to make sure the kids are available to visit with their parent via phone.
In other cases, mostly seen on here, it seems the CP may have denied visitation or parenting time to the NCP. Or the NCP tries to call and the CP doesn't answer or doesn't let the kids know their parent is trying to reach them. The NCP usually ends up having to take the CP to court in order to get their scheduled "visitation via phone" with their kids.
At any rate, it doesn't mean that the parents don't want to talk to their kids any other time. I'm sure that in a lot of cases there's more frequent communication other than the scheduled times. We all have very busy lifestyles, and having a set time to communicate with your family, be it at the dinner table or a call at 7pm three nights a week, simply means they are making time for their kids. It's not a bad thing, just a different way of viewing how they communicate.
I remember when my parents split up for a while I totally looked forward to my Dad's calls on Sunday afternoon (I had sisters so we alternated weeks we got to see him). On Sunday afternoons, he'd call the kid that didn't get to see him that weekend.
Please don't rip on people on this board unless you've read their blogs and know the back story. In most cases this has nothing to do with "Growing Up", it has everything to do with scheduling time around two different households to make it work for everyone.
(disclaimer - I said in most cases. There are some SM's on here that deal with some real whack job BM's that refuse to allow their kids to speak to their father. Avoid calls, avoid Skype, deny visitation for imagined slights. Uberskank (the BM in my life) is a total bitch who takes money from DH's kid and used to frequently tell DH that his kid wasn't around or didn't want to talk to him or didn't want to see him.
Those are the people I am
Those are the people I am talking about. I read a blog that BM wont answer the phone, wont allow dad to talk to kids there always sleeping or out or BM just wont answer the phone. These are the people (BM) I am telling to grow up...Its ridiculous how some woman think they just have that control when the only people they are actually hurting are there children...
I completely understand. We
I completely understand.
We have had our dealings with Uberskank for many years. Though I understand that flatulent bitch will be around for things like college graduation (hopefully), weddings, births, etc. I only have 2.5 years left to deal with this visitation BS.
Uberskank refuses to bring her kid to our house EO Friday to see her father (as per the CO). Instead puts her on a bus (they live about 1.5 hours away) that goes as far as a city 45 minutes away from us. So EO Friday, we pick her up at the bus stop and on Sunday take her all of the way home.
How does Uberskank think this makes her kid feel that she's not even important enough to transport her all the way to our house? Fortunately DH isn't a completely clueless, small minded, dick and drives her all the way home.
I would also assume the bio
I would also assume the bio parent knows the time difference where there children are and would use common sense on phone calls. But I know, they all dont have common sense...Its so sad for the kids..
On the other hand, you
On the other hand, you sometimes have a bio-parent who feels the need to constantly invade your home with phone calls. In cases like that, sometimes a non-contact order is placed, but with an allowance for telephonic parenting time.
^^^^This is the case with us.
^^^^This is the case with us. It is constant text messages and phone calls ALL.DAY.LONG every day that SD is with us. It is so bad that SD turns her phone off during school so she won't get in trouble. Now what in the world do you need to talk to your child that much for :? I know its tough to go a week with no contact at all but this is excessive. SD has even said that when she is with BM that she is always on the phone and pretty much ignores her Go figure :?
Our BM is only allowed two
Our BM is only allowed two calls per week. On specific days and at a specific time. Because she's psycho. All she does is make SD cry or try to make her do bad things or just cause drama. This was judges orders. She's actually lucky She gets any call time at all. It's not us tryin to be mean or anything like that. Sometimes it's just better the smaller amount of contact they have... The less damage they can do. Sometime there is no "getting along"!! Before the court order This psycho would call and cause drama all times of day/night. She also got slapped with harrasment charges- harassment by phone. So before you gripe at people to "get along" try stepping back and thinking about it. Some people are just plain hard to get along with. You should feel lucky you and yours get along! And most step parents here have huge issues to deal with and I'm sure they would appreciate not getting any BS from you.... And gues what? You dont have to "get it"!!! Just let people vent and if you don't like it, don't comment!
We have the same issue with
We have the same issue with BM blowing up the skids phones when they are with us. I am so happy right now because stepdad lost his job (not happy about that) and BM cant afford to keep skids cellphones anymore because they both have android phones with the internet and stuff, and I refuse to pay $90.00 a month for them to keep the phones. so on this next visit she wont be able to drive them both crazy with the nonstop calling and texting. woohoo
For the people that don't
For the people that don't know my situation. Our BM has SV with SS7. In the past when BM is doing good DH has let BM talk on the phone to SS and also visit un supervised. BM is a off and on drug user. So our entire relationship is like a yo-yo. Depending on where Bm is at. DH stop all phone calls because BM lies and manipulates SS so much that SS hope are always getting dashed. After SS having his arm and leg broke while in the care of BM (at 8months due to fighting between BM BF), rehab and prison, now BM on drugs agian. DH just quit everything. DH doesn't have money to go to court so we will wait for BM to take DH. Right now we just don't answer the phone. I should say that SS BM conversation are also SV CO to be SV.