SD13 was nominated by her teachers to participate in a special travel program next June. Only 35 kids in her class were picked, so it's a big deal. This would be her first "independent" travel.
Basically it's based on her being a good, active and engaged student.

...and she has to raise $2K.
The group is required to do fundraising and SD13 will also have to earn money to go (DH and BM will both chip in as well but it's been made clear that she has skin in this one).
So she's figuring out what she can do to earn money.

She talked with me about earning money so after some discussion, I put her to work this weekend helping me weed and spread mulch. She did a good job, no complaints. Put everything away as I instructed. Then asked, "Where do I keep my money for this?" I suggested she insist that her dad get her a bank account. Which she's been asking for for over a year, DH for whatever reason, has just not cared to do it. Nor BM. I don't get it. I'm not going any further than that.

Our neighbor also indicated that she has some light yard work SD13 can do (totally within her skill level). I mentioned that to DH and he started getting all protective of SD13...WTF? DH, she needs to raise $ for this, she WANTS to do this, she helped decide her pay rate, she asked for help finding jobs here and there and THIS IS HER CURRENCY - TRAVEL AND INDEPENDENCE. This isn't general house help, but extra jobs. I'll continue to help so long as SD13 is the one to ask/follow up. If either DH or SD13 push back I'm done. At least I know my limit.

Treading very carefully and quietly now...