Cleaning...things
1) I think DH cleaned the SDs bathroom AGAIN for them. In spite of his statement the last time he did it that "...they will be helping me next time..." I didn't believe him then. Still think it'll never happen. I think they are using very, very dirty towels by this point because they are never in the wash. I just left the house to run errands and ignore it all.
2) Taught SD13 to use the new clothes washer. I have instructions posted in the laundry room. It's really a no brainer machine, much easier than the old one. She was complaining that she had no clean underwear to me (she wanted new underwear instead) so I told her, you have plenty, just none washed. I made her clean out ALL the dirty clothes, towels, mittens, gloves, etc. from her room, sort, spray-wash, make a pile of stuff that doesn't fit any longer, and load the washer. I walked her through the instructions and said, "That's it - it's all on you now to make sure you have clean clothes. You know how to use the new washer and dryer and there's no excuse." (been there, done that)
3) SD11 is out of clean clothes. I told her very clearly last month that if she's out of clean stuff to SAY SOMETHING because no one is monitoring it for her any longer since she's 11. DH was also told this. I ignored her filthy sweatshirt and coat this morning.
4) SD11 is starting to smell. BO has begun. She was sitting near me (not next to, just near) the other day and it took a few minutes for me to realize what I was smelling. After some discussion and her waffling, she's starting to push back against bathing, DH finally told her to "Shower now!" Last night, she pushed back again (DH reminded her all on his own!). DH wanted, really wanted, to give in to her...he eventually told her to just get into the shower. Then when she left the room he turned to me and asked, "She needs to shower, right?" Yes! It's been 4 days since the last time, she's starting get BO!
I'm liking setting firm boundaries on cleaning. I don't monitor SD13's clothing situation but since we got a new washer and dryer I was happy to show her how to use it. I'll do the same with SD11 in the next week or so...And then I'm out!
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And they have always been this way. I guess cleanliness just isn't a priority for some kids.
My bios are the same way, clean to a fault... As reflected by my water bill.
My skids have been doing
My skids have been doing their own laundry since they were 8 and 10. It's pretty easy. Although we did a bleach incident where SD thought she was doing me a favor by washing a load of my clothes and used bleach instead of laundry soap. We no longer keep the bleach by the washer and dryer.
Why do so many skids smell? I just don't get it. SD13 was at our house this weekend. She is on her period right now and didn't shower for three days. Her hair looks like a grease pit. I usually will make her shower but I just didn't care enough this weekend.
why DO they smell?? I will
why DO they smell?? I will never understand that!!
We went out to dinner for my
We went out to dinner for my birthday this year and I kept getting a strong whiff of old man BO. It was SS! He had to shower 4x's that weekend. I think he just stands under the water and doesn't actually use soap. One of his chores now is putting on deodorant.
i love the boys. they havent
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i love the boys. they havent had showering issues since they were probably 7'ish. quite often they've showered twice a day. and they both use deodorant without issue.
i am so appreciative they dont go around smelling like a musty gopher.
Man o Man, we had the smelly
Man o Man, we had the smelly skid issue and I tell you what, it almost sent me over the edge. I could never in my life understand the skids arguing with my SO about showering, in fact after listening to them discuss the issue it only took me about 10 minutes to interrupt. Girl skid was explaining that she hadn't done anything all day that would have made her sweat and I told her it didn't matter if she sweat, all that matter was that her anus had shed some skins cells and she needed to get in the shower to wash her pertinent holes.
Luckily we made it past this stage.
Yeah, I don't get it
Yeah, I don't get it either...I really don't.
SD13 doesn't mind showering, when she feels like it, on her own time (unless someone says she smells) and has been using all the hot water - DH made her set a timer yesterday. She used to have SCREAMING matches with DH about showering once he got tired of her stink. But she'll still go 5 to 7 days without a shower and just put her hair up when it gets greasy. She's starting to break out because she doesn't wash her face...I think ever.
Most kids I know, including myself, have been taught to bathe regularly no matter what - and especially after playing outside all day or after sports. It was FUN to take a bath or shower.
I suspect the SDs don't want to because they have NEVER been taught how to take care of themselves and it was never made to be fun, it was presented as a chore. Because we all know chores are bad. Both DH and BM (I know this from talks with DH and SDs, just picking up info here and there) never taught them to wash face, how to shampoo (they still use way, way too much and I stopped buying if for them for this reason), how to use a washcloth, how to brush teeth (SD13 still doesn't brush), how to floss, etc., etc., etc....
Last night DH told the SDs to clear the dinner table and hand wash all the dishes (the dishwasher was already full and running). They've never done this - SD13 will clean up some of her stuff sometimes if she cooks something, but never ALL the dinner dishes, pots, pans, etc. DH just told them to and then walked away. They each washed and dried their plates and walked away. I said nothing and left the rest for him (I cooked).
"SD11, you need to eat lunch." Then walks away.
"SD13, you need to clean your room." Then walks away.
"SDs, you need to clean your bathroom." Then walks away.
"SD11, you need to change your sheets." Then walks away.
"SD13, brush your teeth." Then walks away.
See the pattern?
Conversation I had with SD13
Conversation I had with SD13 a few months ago
Me...That's a large pimple you got going on there
SD...Yeah, I don't know why I keep getting them
Me...Do you ever wash your face
SD...No
Me...Well there you go
LOL!!! KarateKid has
LOL!!!
KarateKid has bacne....really bad bacne.
Finally, DH made an appointment with the derm. Same derm my kids and I have used for years. He's the best.
Derm prescribes tetracycline for it. My DD25 and Thing1 took it as well when they were younger.
KK is told to take it twice a day with food. KK decides to keep it in the pantry in the kitchen so that it's near food and that will "help" him "remember to take it." Sounds reasonable to me.
Pharmacy texts me yesterday to tell me the refill is ready to pick up. I picked it up on my way home from work.
Original prescription was three weeks ago. 60 pills in the bottle.
Guess how many are left in the bottle? 40. So much for the pantry location helping him remember to take it.
At dinner last night, I tell DH that I picked up the script. KK comes home later that night and DH tells him to check with me for the location of the new script. I tell KK. He tells me that he doesn't think the tetracycline is working.
"of course it's not. It only works when you take it, KK."
*crickets*
I just can't get over the
I just can't get over the fact that people do not shower daily.... maybe because in Mars you smell yourself after a couple off hours lol, it's very very hot in the desert.
Deigma will shower some times twice a day, well me to... but not that much.
Laundry - was never an issues, bedding and towels gets changed every second day, cloths get done every week-end.
Deigma wash, I hang up and we each fold our own that does not need ironing, Mamma comes in during the week for ironing and packs away.
Don't get me thinking about
Don't get me thinking about the last time their sheets were changed or the last time SD13 washed her pajamas.... :sick:
Oh SS14 showers nightly. He
Oh SS14 showers nightly. He uses soap and shampoo about 90-95% of the time...which is great for a 14 year old boy.
Deodorant is a different story. In his little addled snowflake brain, deodorant is only needed before school. Even then, it is the two quickest sprays you've ever heard. Not after a shower, not on a Saturday or Sunday, not if he sleeps at a friend's house. So about 40% of the time, he smells like sour a$$.
Laundry - what's laundry? Oh, those clothes that are in a huge heap and falling out of the laundry basket??? Never seen em, don't know what they are. No more pants to wear? Just take the ones off of the top of the basket.
I repeat again and again: Teenage boys are disgusting.