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DH telling BM2 to FFFFlip Off....Part TWO!!

Cooooookies's picture

Submitted by Cooooookies on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 2:09am

Yep, she tried her non-sense. Again. Just this past Sunday...while I was at work. Again. Because she wouldn't have the balls to do it when I'm around of course.

She comes by Sunday afternoon to drop off SS14. She walks through and DH had done laundry and it was hanging on the clothing racks. BM2 sees one of my bras:

BM2: Whose bra is that?
DH: Well it ain't f**ing mine, is it?
BM2: Is that Cookie's bra?
DH: Of course it is, whose else would it be?!
BM2: Huh, that is big (I'm a 34D)
DH: Yeah...and they're real too
BM2: *crickets*

Backstory on that comment: BM2 confessed several years after their divorce that she short changed him his half of the mortgage buy out by 8,000 euros so she could get a lipo/tummy tuck/boob job combo and new car.

BM2: Blah blah blah about stuff well there's nothing to keep me here anymore, except for SS14. I mean you and Cookies are all loved up so...
DH: Ok and?
BM2: *crickets*

Also, because she's FB friends with SS35 and SD32, she recently saw some birthday party photos of FIL. He turned 85 and we all surprised him by meeting at a pub restaurant for his birthday meal. He absolutely love it. Photos were taken by SS35's wife and posted. Since SS35 and SSD32 were tagged in, BM2 saw all the photos. So this conversation took place:

BM2: I saw the photos of your dad's birthday party. He looks really ill.
DH: He is really ill.
BM2: It looks like he's lost a lot of weight, he looks so thin.
DH: He has lost a lot of weight.
BM2: Do they know what's causing it?
DH: Have an idea of course but don't know officially. You're a nurse, you take a guess.
BM2: Sooooo has he done his Will yet? Do you know who inherits everything? (She damn well knows).
DH: Yes, I inherit everything.
BM2: Well, have you completed your Will? (she is all about money and has asked this question numerous times since I've known DH.)
DH: Yep, have it all done.
BM2: Well, who's in it?
DH: Family.
BM2: *hesitates for 1.265443 seconds* Am I in it?
DH: No you're not in it. When I die, everything goes to family.
BM2: But but I thought I'd be in it because we've known each other so long and have SS14 together.
DH: No F**k that! Why should you be in it?! You left me for this guy and then years later left me for another guy. I was nothing more than sh*t on your shoes!!
BM2: *shocked face* *crickets*

There ya go, the exact thinking of a GUBM. She should get something because she had a baby with DH. A child that she does F all for, but dangit she had one! Never mind all the horrible stuff she did...and still does.

I'd say she got the hint but I doubt it. I am very proud of my DH for shutting her down and very mad at BM2 for attempting all this non-sense every time I'm not around. I take small delight in the fact that she's seething, jealous, feeling rejected and completely hating me right now. Because, of course, all of this is my fault. Wouldn't be hers, after all. Wink

Watch this space...

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Monchichi's picture

Submitted by Monchichi on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 2:24am

Please can I be in your husbands will because I know you on ST and we both have poopers }:)

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 2:32am

LMAO!!!!

If the money was shared with everyone here who has a pooper skid, the money would run out Blum 3

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Submitted by momjeans on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 8:00am

I'm surprised your DH engages is such back and forth conversation with her, even if he's telling her like it is. And even more because she's bringing up personal matters that do not involve her. Discussing people's Wills is the tackiest behavior ever.

I got a good chuckle about the bra. Yeah, the GUBM here had a pre-divorce boob job too, but paid for by one of her many older boy toys.

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 8:02am

My SO has explained that in his will his kids get everything. Which is fine. Except I'm the one responsible for overseeing it till they are old enough.

Yes he talk to legal council and was told he could do it. I keep telling him he's not allowed to die then because I don't want to deal with BM trying to get it every 5 minutes. I keep warning him ontop of that I would have no legal rights to keep the kids myself so that just makes it better.

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Submitted by Pharlap on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 8:13am

BM knows that DH has some pretty significant insurance policies that SS is beneficiary of or at least a partial on some of them. I know that she's banking on something happening to DH and her getting her hands on that money. To bad that proceeds flow into a trust that I will control and if I step down as trustee, we have designated a bank to act as a fidicuriary. It's in the language that absolutely no cash payments are to be made to BM and SS can only get cash when he reaches a certain age. Payments for school, medical, etc, are made directly to the providers. BM would get survivors benefits from social security for SS if DH passes which when we looked into it would be pretty significant and much, much more then she is getting in CS right now, so I don't feel bad a single bit for DH locking the trust language up so tight.

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Submitted by Pharlap on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 8:46am

social security death benefits for my step son. Lol sorry that wasn't clear. BM would be entitled to death payments from social security until he reaches either 16 or 18. It's based on I think 75% of the dead parent's social security payouts they would be eligible for and I think thier income comes into it as well.

But I do know that an ex spouse can be entitled to a certain portion of an ex's SS payments when they retire if they were married for more then 10 years at some point.

DH and I haven't been married for that long but if he passes away while we are married I think I'll be able to get some payments from social security. Not sure on that though. I might have to wait the year that he would have been eligible to draw on it if he was still alive.

Death benefits are very confusing!

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 8:23am

Wow...I can't believe he let her inside for that long of a conversation to even happen and then the conversation itself was just...wow. If BM ever came into our house (again) my DH would use it as an excuse to shoot her for trespassing. He wouldn't kill her but he'd give her a painful reminder she isn't allowed over.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 8:41am

Does he enjoy talking to her? Because the fact that she was in the house, having a conversation with him about such personal business really blows my mind.

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Thu, 05/11/2017 - 2:46am

It happens anywhere. The location of the pick-up/drop-off does not stop her. Once, we met in front of a grocery store here and she was stroking his arm hair, asking what happened to it. I was standing right there. Her arm snapped back faster than a rubber band when she noticed I was giving her the 'what in the actual F are you doing?!' stink eye.

All that would happen if we stopped her coming into the house is the shenanigans and conversations would happen somewhere else. Geography does not slow this woman down, trust me.

He doesn't enjoy talking to her. He did not encourage nor crave this b.s. She does it all on her own. The only shade being thrown is by BM2.

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Submitted by Pharlap on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 8:53am

Why does she come in at all? I get irritated from the rare occasions that BM has to come up to our porch!

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 3:38pm

She comes in to drop off SS14. If it was made a big deal that she couldn't come in, she'd love the conflict and revel in the fact that it bothers me. Which it doesn't. Her behaviour is what bothers me.

Whether or not she was "allowed" in our home, this conversation was going to happen. DH has been ignoring her for years. Before that he was placating her...until I came along. Neither one has worked. Neither one stopped her from being a PITA. Nothing has stopped her from sending the suggestive texts, emails, hints, inappropriate comments, heck even FB posts when she was on his friend list.

Silence doesn't stop some bullies. She was direct and forward so DH was direct and forward right back. Right after his "I was nothing more than sh*t on your shoes" comment, BM2's jaw dropped, her face looked in absolute shock for 2.5 seconds then she quickly said "I have to go now!"

She hurried out our front door and DH hasn't heard a peep from her since. This has been long time coming. This needed to happen. He needed to stand up to her and he did...and it had her running out of our home.