My first official blog entry
Many months ago I found this site as recommended by SO as a place to get feedback and ideas about step parenting before we moved in together or got married (thus my screen name). I am officially starting my blog entries as a diary of sorts.
I am a childless woman of 42 and moved in with SO and SD6 in the beginning of June. SD and I have gone through loads of phases already. First she LOVED me and wanted to come to my house all the time. Then we were together as a threesome a lot and I think she wanted a little more "just daddy and me" time. She challenged to see where my boundaries were.... When they moved into a new house in February and I started spending the occasional night she LOVED it but then didn't want me around all the time because she wanted her turn to sleep with Daddy. She and I spend lots of time together playing and we both enjoy it, although she is extremely smart and is able to manipulate her mother pretty well so I'm walking the fine line of being accommodating and fun but not a push-over. SO does all the disciplining, allowing me to be the good guy but I do have to lay down limits with her when it comes to our interactions with each other.
We've been living together the three of us since the beginning of June and so far all is going well. We have her 50/50. BM and I get along extremely well, even working together to help SD create a gift for Father's Day. No real issues there with the exception of occasional irritation with her flightiness when it comes to time management.
SD and I were playing tickle fight a couple of weeks ago, she threw her arms around me and said "I love you!"... My heart soared and I was very touched. I told her I loved her too. The other night during dinner I winked at her and she got off her chair, came around my side of the table, hugged me and told me she loved me again (this time in front of SO). I feel very lucky. Don"t get me wrong, there are plenty of times she decides to just ignore me or doesn't want what I made for dinner or decides she's going to disagree with EVERYTHING I say for a day or so.... But all in all I'm pretty lucky I think, I told my SO that these are the moments I will look back on with fondness when she's 13 and runs to her room screaming that she hates me 
So that's the beginning of my story. More to come.
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You are so lucky. Especially
You are so lucky. Especially with getting along with BM! That will make all the difference. The deal with SD is they do run hot and cold. I have a SD6 and some days she loves me and some days she's cold as ice. It used to bother me, but now I've just learned to keep my emotions in check about the whole thing. I was put into her life and took valuable time away with Daddy but the good news is that fDH is very consistent in always loving both of us and never choosing sides. He's a good man. Unfortunately, bM and I do not get along really but we don't have to deal with each other either. Good Luck! Sounds like you're doing great!
Love this post. Hope
Love this post. Hope everything stay this way for you.
Yes, I'm trying desperately
Yes, I'm trying desperately not to take it personally when she decides she's not loving me at tat particular moment but it's so hard not to let my silly little feelings get hurt. I'm getting better though.