All I gotta do is shutup and...TA DAH...
SO...
SD6 is sick. My little asthmatic always-gets-sick-worse-than-all-the-others drama queen. Well, it's our week to have the girls but BM is a medical assistant at the girls' physician's office, so BM took SD6 to the Dr. instead of DH. The poor thing was diagnosed with an ear and sinus infection. Well BM wanted to keep SD6 with her that night and DH agreed because most of us DO want our mommies when we aren't feeling good.
Well, she stayed home from school yesterday at Grandma's house (BM's mom and their not on the books daycare provider). Again, BM wanted to keep her again last night and DH and BM gave her the choice to stay and SD6 of course chose to stay with mommy. (Side note: hate this habit of DH and BM of giving children choices)
SO AGAIN, BM wanted SD6 to stay home from school today. BUT Grandma wouldn't take her because she had things planned for that day...so the pseudo martyr (aka BM) called DH just bitchin' about having to take her to work with her on a week that she's supposed to be with us. So Colorado Girl (with the master plan) called my mom and she was willing to go pick her up from BM at her work and take her back to our house and watch her there. Problem solved, I called DH back to call BM and tell her my mom was on her way. Well DH was about to walk into a meeting and asked if I could just call her.
I should have known better....
I called her and told her that my mom was on her way and to have her ready. BM tells me to hang on and then ASKS a six year old if she wants to go with my mom. SD6 says no she wants to stay with mommy. BM then proceeds to get back on the phone and tell me that she'll just keep her but that I need to remember this "favor" in the future...
As I tilted my head in confusion, she rambled on about how she should be the "mom" and make her daughter go, but she just couldn't when her poor baby wanted to stay with her.
WHATEVERRRRR...Didn't say a word. Even though my mind was begging my mouth to ask her why in the world she would give a six year old a choice in anything and why would she call bitching only to discard any reasonable solution or since when was she ever doing ME a favor by keeping her own daughter when I've just told her that my mom could relieve her of that duty????
I just shook my head and said I had to let her go so I could call my mom and tell her not to pick her up.
So I called DH and he just lost it....told me next time that she won't be keeping any of them when they're sick.
TA DAH.....
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yuck
That is so annoying. Good for your for taking the high road and not blowing up! I have a ss6 and giving him an say in ANYTHING is a bad idea...his mom also lets him make all the decisions so he's turned into a kid who thinks the world revolves around him. Oh by the way, he lives with us full time now and barely EVER sees her so I really THANK her for this gift.
miserable person
She is a miserable person and she is not going to be happy regardless of what you do. Example: I gave the evil one 400. for a Christmas present and it was the wrong color and I still have not been thanked for it. Some people are like that and they enjoy being miserable. When I realized that some people are broken and they cannot be fixed I decided not to concern myself with those people or their wishers anymore.
I'm afraid I wouldn't have
I'm afraid I wouldn't have been to HOLD it like you did. Especially when she said the things about the 'favor'. That would have done it for me. Think I would have said...that YOU were doing her a favor by asking your mom and if she didn't want the favor..oh well!
I hate it when I have to talk to BM.
CG, I can't believe you controlled yourself, I wouldn't have been able to help it, I would of lost it at her. Well done Girlfriend!
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
that was my morning laugh. Thanks CG. Funny how this bitch was doing you a favor by keeping her own daughter! OMG, they never cease to amaze me.
You should go pick out the cutest thank you card you can get your hands on, and a little thing of flowers. Take them to her tonight and just say "Oh, thank you so much. I wanted to show my appreciation for you keeping your daughter when she was sick, though I had a alternative, thank you BM!!"
well, BM here
lets a THREE year old decide where she wants to sleep...her own bed or "mama's"...so of course asking a SIX year old whats best for her is not out of the question...(end sarcasm)
what in the hell is wrong w these women? youre nice enough to make arrangements and what do u get? just doesnt pay to be nice...we all learn that the hard way
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
I am trying to learn the art of shutting up myself
As I find when my mouth isn't motoring, often times others find a way to insert their own foot into their mouths, thereby making the point I would have been trying to make- for me! Way to edit and what a great return CG!
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
You and I...
are just so verbal. I just gave up on the idea that having an intelligent AND rational conversation with BM is an impossibility. If I'm not agreeing with her and telling her how right she is, she won't listen.
She lives in her own little world and I prefer to live in the real one.
"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley
They all
think that something is owed to them.But it should be the other way around cause were the ones who put up with ALL their BS!!!!!!
Stepmomjen
I loved your idea!!!! She deserved a bloody card!
I cannot comprehend how these women call themselves "mothers". I wouldn't have dreamed of "pawning" my children off to ANYONE when they were well or sick. Geezzzzzzzzzzz
Let me tell you about the last choice I gave SD6....
I made chicken noodle soup for lunch last Sunday. EVERYBODY was sick in my house with some sort of sniffles or cough or whatever.
Well, I was out of saltines so I thought I'd make white toast for whoever wanted it. I yelled up to the kids and asked them one by one who wanted toast with their soup. (SD6 declined while the other two SDs wanted toast)
SO I set out all the bowls with toast next to whoever wanted it and beckoned them to come eat lunch. They all shuffle down and lastly arrives Princess SD6 who proceeds to say quite loudly and even more rudely "I didn't want soup"...
I simply replied "okay", picked up her bowl and dumped it in the sink.
She looked at me in shock and then turned to her dad with tears in her eyes "Daaaadddyyyy, I'm hungry..." and he looked to me for a solution.
I let them know that soup was for lunch and if she didn't want it than she doesn't get to eat. DH knowing better than to criticize what I put on the table, (because the day he does that will be making breakfast, lunch, and dinner for himself AND his offspring) told her "sorry honey...no lunch."
She turned to me with the tears flowing at this point and I asked her if she wanted soup because I'd be glad to get her ANOTHER bowl.
"Yes..." sniff.sniff.
I'm not a line order cook and I don't give children choices in such matters. They don't have the capacity to order and pay for food in a restaurant so I'll be damned they order it in my home. Better start tipping otherwise...
"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley
no no special orders
this isnt burger king. u cant have it ur way.
the only way i would make something else for the skids, other than a bday or special occassion, would be if they dont like what i make and really make an effort to eat it. and even then, the choice would be...fine. then pb&j.
who do some kids think they are?
at least DH backs u CG. mine does too.
poor crayon...
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
I knew
a woman who would read the entire menu to a 3 year old so he could have "choices". At 16 he chose to do drugs & it ruined his life and his parents marriage.
Would you like to do it with a red or blue crayon---BUT YOU'RE GOING TO DO IT.
Good for you Crayon! I bet she'll think about it twice before she turns down your food.
A kid can't ruin a marriage unless the parents let it happen.
I can assure you that I would have ended up living under an overpass pan handling before my parents would have allowed me to ruin their marriage or my younger sibs childhood.
As it should be IMHO.
Best regards,