He wanted revenge, he got it!
It would be much easier if I had family, but no, I am all alone, no support network. This morning I was sorting things see if I could pack some and throw away more, and all of a sudden, BM's car pull up and his kids ran into the house. I was surprised because it's not his weekend. I asked him about it, he said he wanted them to come over to swim and they stayed all day until after 10 pm. He knew when they were here, I wouldn't be able to concentrate on packing and sorting, so I ended up doing nothing other than locking myself in his bedroom. Yes, it's his bedroom because I sleep on the couch. He wanted revenge, wanted to make me feel uncomfortable in the house so he got it. Perhaps he saw me didn't eat anything at all, so he came in the room and gave me some bananas, but I told him to take them away, I said I didn't want anything from him. No point playing Mr Nice Guy when he can and will abandon me in the storm.
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Honey, 2 can play the douche
Your new mantra: "Anything you can do I can do better!"
Try not to hide in his room
Try not to hide in his room anymore when the kids come. Just keep packing your shit and don't mind them. I know it's hard, but try not to show how hurt you are, he will totally get off on how much he thinks he's hurt you.
Just pack, whistle a happy tune, and don't let on how bad you might be feeling, this will be your best revenge against him. Just keep imagining your new freedom!
Notice how he's sabatoging your efforts to leave, and don't fall for him trying to be nice, do not trust him. Remember he's facing being alone with his brats now, no scapegoat like you to blame things on. So he's going to try subtle passive ways to keep you from leaving, even possibly being extra nice to you. He needs you to stay because people like him need someone around to abuse. I won't be surprised if he tries to reconcile with you once he realizes you're serious about leaving. Don't stay, just keep packing and then leave!
There is an old joke about a
There is an old joke about a woman who put shrimp in the curtain rods as after she caught her husband cheating }:)
Let's see what else I can think of... lol
Place opened cans of tuna
Place opened cans of tuna inside the air vents in the house. Or, if you can stomach it, buy some of those frozen feeder mice from a pet store. Put those in the air vents before you move out. You'll be grinning in your new place while he searches his house for the cause of the rotting flesh odor.
Toss his undies into the
Toss his undies into the dryer with a bit of fiber glass insulation. Fold and return to the drawer.
I am loving all of these!
I am loving all of these! This is not a group of women to mess with!! }:)
I wouldn't hide out and let
I wouldn't hide out and let them prevent me from doing what I want - why would you care what they think? Even though this is probably one of the hardest things to do, I'd turn on some music YOU like, dance around and pack away! Make you something special for your meals and say to hell with them. Don't let them see you upset, they'll think they've won. Keep your head high, sweetie.
Honey.....you have got to
Honey.....you have got to show some strength here. Do what you need to do to get out and ignore the shit storm around you. This guy is a jerk and he's unfortunately turning his kids into jerks as well.
Pack up, find a local women's shelter, ask them if they can help your move out. You're not as alone as you believe. Or go to a local church, tell the minister/pastor what has happened and ask if there are a few men or women that would accept a few bucks to help you move.
Most of all I want you to march to the closest mirror, look yourself in the eye, stand up straight and tall and say "I am stronger than he is, I can do this!" And keep repeating that to yourself.
Keep us posted.