Great news! For those who have been following "Fail-Gate", Munchkin SD14 has pulled up her grades!!! 3 B's and 5 C's, up from 3 F's, 4c's and 1 B.

I took advice given. Found out what her currency is. Talked with her about what we can do to help her out. Badgered the heck out of her. I even went and emailed some of the teachers, went to a few teacher hours on Zoom. Bought her Art Supplies (failing class). Spent a few hours talking about assignment that was confusing. Made an assignment check list that she checked things off.

She started with aproximately 30 missing assignments. Did aproximately 20 of them, give or take.

It was painful to be certain.

I asked Munchkin "so on a scale of pain level, 1 being least and 10 being worst, exactly how painful was this catchup?"

Her answer: "well, it started as maybe a 5, and went to a 7, I think". I go "yeah it was pretty painful! Lets not do this again!"

So we came up with some ideas. A calendar of assignments. I do weekly check ins. Etc. 

Her sweet spot? Baking sugar cookies and decorating them.

Ok, so I did a thing...

Toxic Troll has a lot of Facebook Friends that are friends of mine also. I deactivated my under the radar account.

A friend of mine screenshotted a post of Toxic Trolls. About me. Someone had asked her about our relationship. Her answer was looooooong. Several comments long. Summarized below:

1. She tried to be friendly and nice. invited me to parties.

Truth: They were b-day parties for Munchkin, and pool parties to boot. We soon stopped 

2. She stayed with DH for a year to "try to work things out, and celebrate our lasts...like our last valentines day together, our last mothers/fathers day together"

Truth: DH  kicked her out when she was caught cheating online and meeting up with people. She would steal her kids house keys and show up and drink his alcohol.

3. She claimed I am forced by DH to curl my hair like hers and do my makeup like she does.

Truth: In the beginning of things I was straightening my hair. It is naturally curly. I hardly ever wear makeup and its a very different situation than hers, my features are different...

4. DH tried to get her to stay, by buying a pool table and accuzzi, but wouldnt hook up the 'cuzzi to try to keep her there.

Truth: He was creating a bachelor pad for himself after he kicked her out.

5. I called her a Golden Uterus. 

Truth: I did in fact call her a Golden Uterus.

6. DH is Jealous and Angry and Controlling, or was with her. I am now the jealous and angry and controlling one, so the karma bus has hit him, ha ha ha. Yay her. I even time him when he goes to her grody apartment for pickup/drop off.

Truth: He hates going there. Its gross, it stinks and its dirty with trash and junk all over the place. I love that my friends love and like him. They even kiss him hello (pre covid and on the cheek) and I have no jealousy. We laugh all the time, Munchkin even comments on how much he laughs now that he has me in his life. She remembers his depression and anger during the separation and pre-separation times.

7. Munchkin wants to live with her full time, hates being at our house and doesnt like me, we dont get along.

Truth: Munchkin loves me and wants to live with us full time. We have done a lot of fun things and she recently told her teacher we have a really positive relationship, even better than the one with her father. YEP. Look, I know that her mother will always be first. I know that Im not the mother. I know my days are probably numbered.

But folks, Toxic Troll is riding the crazy train, and put it all out there on Facebook. Blasting me...well I guess she wont be getting a Christmas Card this year, and certainly no cookies.