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Submitted by CJ38 on Mon, 07/09/2012 - 7:47pm

My stepson is turning into the most vial kind of person. He is glorying in the fact that he can victimize women. When he is here with me, he is no longer allowed in the same room with me and my son, if my husband is not home. He has no remorse or conscience that I can see. He is truly going to become one of those hay-nous people, you are afraid to meet on the streets. We have explained to him that his actions will land him in prison, and he defiantly says that he will keep doing them. I told my husband I didn't want to be here, when he is here and he said that if I left that he would file for divorce. Which at this point is not an option at all, because my SS will hurt my son. So I am just waiting out my time, till he does something really bad, so I give my husband an ultimatum of you let me leave when he is here, or the marriage is over. I never dreamed that I would be living with a future criminal right in my own home. Keep me in your prayers everyone, that I can deal with such horrible things, and keep my sanity. :sick: :sick:

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Tue, 07/10/2012 - 6:35am

You are an adult. Your husband doesn't have the power to LET you do anything. If you don't want to be home while your SS is there, pack a bag and go. If that results in a divorce, so be it.

Why sit around and wait for a nut to hurt you or your child? Your husband's response won't change. He will still say if you leave, I will divorce you.

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Submitted by stepmisery on Tue, 07/10/2012 - 6:52am

Your husband threatened you with divorce if you leave, but you want to allow SS to hurt you or your son so you can then file for divorce? Sorry don't get the reasoning for the middle part. All states allow no-fault divorce, it's not like your DH is gonna get some extra punishment for "forcing" you to stay in a potentially harmful situation.

You have a responsibility to your child to protect him. Not allowing SS in the same room? That's not going to stop someone who is determined to do something.

Protect yourself and your son. Leave. Let him file for divorce, it's probably an empty threat anyway. Your husband is supposed to be your protector.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Tue, 07/10/2012 - 6:58am

IMO, even if it is an empty threat on his part, I'd go ahead & file & be done. I see nothing good coming of a marriage that lasts because of threats. SS is violent & a danger to your family. Your DH is manipulative & mentally abusive. He is not behaving the way a husband should behave toward his wife.

Don't even wait to see if he'll really do it. YOU make this choice, for you & your son. You don't owe it to him to let him decide whether or not he'll follow through on his crap threat. You are a person, just like he is. You owe it to your son to ensure his safety, as well as your own.

Don't give your DH or his son power over you or yours.

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Submitted by Evilstepmom3211 on Tue, 07/10/2012 - 4:14pm

Run! What has DH done to protect you and your son? sounds to me like nothing. I know its easy for us all to talk and tell you what you should or should not be doing, but you have to protect your son. He only has you. and if SS hurts you then where will your son be? If divorcing DH is the price you have to pay for protecting your son then you just might have to pay the piper.