Many will say that its black and white. You knew what you were getting into. You accept this or you dont. Its your problem, deal with it.
These are people who have never had to deal with this situation. Or it comes from the father of the child that you loathe so much. Nobody understands.
People have to hide how they feel, bitch to their friends about how they truly feel when all you want to do is scream out loud how you wish that child never existed and that your idiot SO should have kept it in his pants instead of firin into some munt, litreally desperation on his part.
Holding resentment for his actions and resentment and jealousy towards his spawn is the most unhealthy feeling i have ever experienced. One day on from this break up and i am feeling a slight relief. For 2 years i barely put up with that child. I would go bck to my parents houes the 2 days he visited his dad because i couldnt stand to be anywhere near him and control what his dad done and when he done it. How dare that stupid child tell his dad what to do! Hes 5yo fs. Im not interested in constantly being 2nd best. Why do women put theirselves through this! Why should you have to suffer for his foolish actions. Leave him to it. Let him and his offspring get on with it.
I use to be like so many women on here. Burying my head in the sand and then dissing the kid at every chanve i got to other people. I have become a shadow of my former self. Lost my self esteem and confidence. Constant paranoia. And for what? To keep a man happy. No. I think its time i moved on and looked after me, number one. Until someone else is willing to make me their number one. No sprog to spoil your happiness and being 100% you! It sounds like bliss to me. Knowing you done the right thing in the end will keep me sane during this tough time. Im glad i can move on now.