But It's MY hoodie!!
SD4 has been potty trained for about a year. She has "accidents" when she isn't happy with a particular situation. If we take the family somewhere and she gets bored, she pees in her pants.
This past weekend, we all went out to dinner. We were all enjoying ourselves. We finished our meal and we were sitting at the table chatting, waiting for the check. SD4 got restless. She started whining. We told her were going to leave in a minute, and to just chill out. She peed in her pants. Sitting at the table, she just pees. She stands up and shows DH what she's done. He's frustrated and tells me he's going to take her to the bathroom and then out to the car. I stay behind to sign the receipt and leave a tip.
I walk out to the car. I had brought my favorite hoodie (we were at church before dinner and I get cold). It is my favorite hoodie. It's not fancy, it's and old hoodie, but it's soft, and comfy, and I love it. DH has taken off SD4's pants, and wrapped her pee soaked bottom in MY hoodie. Did he ask me? Nope.
When I realized what he had done, I asked him why he thought it would be okay to use my hoodie. He said he didn't want her to get cold.... in the car... that has a working heater / ac unit. (FYI, It's not that cold out, actually it was in the 80's this weekend) He told me I was over reacting. He told me I would have done the same thing... umm no I wouldn't have. I would have let my boys sit in there pee soaked pants until we made the 5 minute drive home. Then I would have given them a firm smack on the behind for manipulating a situation they didn't like by peeing in their pants. She ONLY does this when she doesn't like what's going on. For example, she peed in her pants one afternoon while DH and I were play wrestling with each other and the kids. Right in front of us. She does it to get attention. He disagrees.
I didn't make a huge deal out of it, but it ticked me off. I really love my hoodie. I know I know, it can be washed, but still, it's MY hoodie.
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Yes, I left a good tip!! I
Yes, I left a good tip!! I used to waitress, so I feel for any server that has to deal with our bunch! I totally agree! She should have rode home with a chill on her booty! DH disagreed, we wouldn't want princess to be uncomfortable...
He should have asked. I
He should have asked. I probably would have done the same thing, though.
I wouldn't want her little naked ass sitting on my seats.
If SD has a habit of doing this as she pleases, why not stick an extra set of clothes in the trunk "just in case?"
The thing is, if he had
The thing is, if he had asked, I would have said hell no! I'm considering telling him to put her in pull ups if we leave the house, so she can't control the situation...
Should have let her sit there
Should have let her sit there in the resturaunt soaked in pee until you were ready to leave. The mess was already made, why give her what she wants by taking her out early?
My SD used to do the same thing when she was that age. She would deliberately pee her pants as soon as she was sent to timeout for something. After the first couple times, I got wise to her. So she had to stand there soaked in pee for her allotted timeout, then an extra 5 minutes for peeing herself, then clean the floor herself......and then she had to go clean herself up and change, and get the pee soaked clothes in the wash. Three or four times and she decided it wasn't worth it.
That's a fantastic idea! Now,
That's a fantastic idea! Now, how to get DH to go for it! }:)
When SD5 pees her pants
When SD5 pees her pants during the day (which doesn't occur very often anymore, but she'll be 6 in 2 months, it shouldn't happen at all), she goes to timeout until she can tell me WHY she's in timeout, and WHY she didn't use the bathroom, or at least ASK to go. She stands there in her pee'd-in clothes until she will admit to peeing and why she did it. Then she gets to go change and and deal with her clothes. Once she stood there for an hour. It doesn't happen much anymore, but still too much.
Sadly, she still wets the bed every night, and considering she was dry and regressed when BM left DH, we can pretty much rule out medical. Now just to figure that one out.
He definitly should have
He definitly should have asked you. That is just gross. She needs to feel how uncomfortable it is to be wet, so that she learns that this isn't an appropriate way to get attention. I would have left my SS sit in his wet pants.
And I agree with the pull ups. When she complains about it, tell her exactly why you do it. "If you are going to pee your pants like a baby, then you can wear a diaper like a baby." Maybe something a little nicer than that tho.
The thing is, she doesn't
The thing is, she doesn't care if she wears pull-ups...
I agree, she should have sat in it, instead of making my hoodie a victim in the mess!
Being that she seems to be
Being that she seems to be doing these "accidents" when she's upset, I wouldn't hide the matter. I would have let her sit in her pee soaked pants and paraded her through the restaurant on the way to the car. I assume you were going home where she could change. But the public part of that and not giving her the extra attention would teach her quickly that peeing her pants is not going to get her what she wants.
And my condolences for your
And my condolences for your hoody, next time he can take the shirt off his back!