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Submitted by caya506 on Fri, 11/12/2010 - 8:35am

BM is my main gripe. I don't really have any problems with SS3 at this point (don't know how long it'll last though with a nut for a mother). We were hoping that since she had a boyfriend that she would quiet down for awhile. Well I don't know if that relationship is already kaput or what, but she has been going at it again with the incessant texting and the up and down mood swings.

Earlier this week she started in again with the 'SS hates me. He doesn't want me(BM) he only wants you(BF). You and caya should just raise him' and blah blah blah blah. BF does not answer these kinds of texts. He tried at first with reassuring her that yes SS loves you, etc. but that would just piss her off and she would then blame BF for it, call him a liar, a**hole and any other name in the book. Whatever, if you have insecurities as a parent, not our problem! BF and I never ever talk bad about BM (while SS is there at least), even when SS says to me that 'mommy doesn't like you, do you like mommy?' I bite my tongue, smile and say 'why yes SS, I like your mommy, all that matters to me is if you like me' and I get a big 'ol smile from SS and he says 'well I still like you' Smile .

Oh, and apparently I'm going to kill BF and BM. BM sent him a text last night saying 'my friend thinks caya is going to kill you(BF) in your sleep and possibly me too'. Ummm, you BM, maybe }:) BF, absolutely not. Where in the hell does she come up with this stuff!?

That last text kind of upset me not because of what it said, but because it hit me that even though she has a new boyfriend (if they are still together) she is still acting like this, and she probably will for the next 15 years. Ignoring her doesn't help, it just angers her even more. It'll never end with her Sad .

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Submitted by SillyGilly on Fri, 11/12/2010 - 9:28am

This is what we do to keep everything documents and it does help tone down the crazy - but it has yet to go away.....

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Submitted by Gia on Fri, 11/12/2010 - 9:03am

I think you should document all of these nonsense texts and emails. I don't know the legal status of the custody of your SS3 but I'm sure you can collect all of these things and they might be helpful at trying to prove the lack of good judgement this woman has.

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Submitted by caya506 on Fri, 11/12/2010 - 9:18am

Right now they have joint legal and physical custody. We're thinking it might actually be a possibility that BM gives BF more custody because she simply 'can't handle ss' (her words). BF fought her for 3 years to get 50% custody. She absolutely refused. Then one month after the divorce decree was signed she called freaking out, telling BF he had to take SS more often because she couldn't handle him and couldn't stand the sight of him because he reminded her too much of BF, and gave BF 50%. All of those messages are saved and sent to his e-mail account. She has basically said that she doesn't want SS there as often, and is always asking BF to take SS.