Fathers Day
So fathers day is coming up the week after next. My BF had made plans to be at his parents the week before fathers day to help them around their property, which is 7 hours away, as they are getting older and can't do as much of the stuff on their own anymore. He decided that since it was so close to fathers day that he would just stay there and spend it with his father, since he hasn't gotten to do this for many years. Now BF has a son age 2, he called BM and told her that he wasn't going to be picking him up on fathers day, but that he would pick him up for a visit the next day, as he would be coming back. Well she told him that he was a horrible father and that he couldn't handle being a father and how could he not want to spend fathers day with his own son and on and on.
Now i think that at age 2 he obviously doesn't understand the concept of fathers day and showing appreciation and giving the recognition to his father for all that he does for him, so it shouldn't be that big of a deal. And BF is spending it with his own dad who he sees no more than 4 times a year.
What your opinions about fathers day and this situation?
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In that case, a father comes first...
You said his father is old, who knows how many other father's days he will be able to spend with his father...
a 2 year old has NO concept of father's day...
Plus, I think that being a good dad for 364 days is more important than dad for a day...
Is there a way, that maybe he could spend father's day with Both son AND father?
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
He could.....
....but bfs parents live a good 7 hours away and he wouldn't get to spend much quality time with either if he tried to see both in the same day.
Tell Bm fine
then, he'll take ss2 with him and then the 2 yr old can spend a whole week with BF and his family.
Dawn
He would except..
..BM is on a rampage and says that she is "restricting his parenting time" because she says that ss is unsafe with him cause he doesn't know how to raise a child and that he can't have him for is regular weekends, he can only have him on fathers day and that is it, take it or leave it. We found out this morning that the reason she is on a rampage is not because she thinks he's unsafe, but because BM says ss has been calling mine and BFs place mommy and daddys. Now ss has never ever called me mommy and BF has never ever told him to call me that so I don't know where he got that. As much as I dislike BM I would never intentionally do that. She is his mother, that is her title. But her using that as a reason to keep ss from BF is just ridiculous.
And yes BF will the filing a contempt of court motion if she actually keeps ss from him, we'll have to wait and see.
I keep trying to respond to this
but I'm sick and can't figure out how I want to word it all.
So basically the BM is crazy. She's making a big deal out of nothing. Your hubby should see his dad. Fathers day isn't just for her son and your DH.......and I think her trying to say he's a bad father is because she's a idiot.
Did that make any sense or did my fever take over?
~Happiness is defined by the smile on your face, not the frown on others.~
Perfect sense
That's how I was trying to word it but I couldn't quite figure out how, Must be because it's Monday.
Ridiculous
Even if SS were older, if DH decides to visit his own dad for fathers day, only a jack*ss would object-!! This Bm is so rude. I would report definitely report her for this if you ever go to court. DH should do what he wants to do.
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin