Hi CastelJJ and Shepshell, 

SS reaction was basic, no crying has i guess he knewn this wasn't going to work. 
He answered the question "why are you lying permanently?" By "because i'm stupid". 
However BM and DH insisted on the fact it wasn't an answer so he said "to have what i want". 
 

He will be visiting in two weeks, i'm not thrilled at all to have him

Hi girls, 

Good question that i have explained in my previous blogposts (or in the forum, i'm not sure). 
ILs are MIL and SIL. DH comes from a really unhealthy dysfunctionnal and broken familly. 
His father left when he was 5 and his maternal grandparents raised him at their home while MIL was with SIL in her own appartment because she cannot handle her two children. She chosen the girl. 
DH has been emotionnaly abused during all his childhood and was a child worker of his GF. 
MIL always recognized the fact, she is even the one who told me at first "my father was really hard with him, always saying to him he was idiot, and making him work hard in the yard after schooldays". 
DH often got to hospital when his grandfather was too hard on him (many broken bones). 
MIL always treated his son as "the same than his father", alcoholic one. Because of their physical similarities. 
DH is clearly the "one to shot" of the family. 

However, as a broken human, DH had always been nice with their persecutors : GF (died) but also MIL and SIL. The last one took the same pathway than the familly and consider DH like a crap. 
They never ever loose the opportunity to humiliate him. Plus, except DH who had been told his entire life that work was the only thing existing on earth, they all are lazy, non graduated, non educated and miserable people. MIL is a cleaning lady who spend the few money she earns on money gambling. SIL is working as a salesgirl on a little shop she likes to steal when she can and his fiancee is an alcoholic non worker social case. 
The two of them has a little baby. 

When DH end his first relationship with BM, they were all thrilled to see he failed. He was a failure as a partner (even if she cheated on him when SS wasn't even 1 YO) and he must be a failure as a father. 

DH has his own business (he is handworker), work really hard but make is own money. However, as they can't see him succeed, they always tried to convinced him to stop his business to become employee like them. 

And when we met, they just completely became all crazy. 
Seeing DH dating a master degree graduate girl who has her own situation as an executive manager of the biggest company in the region, and who is an only child from healthy and good wages family... was obviously too for them. 
 

At the first begining, when i met them, MIL and SIL told me "okay, you seems to be a good person, so we must tell you who HE truly is ! A liar, a stoler and a coward. We love him, but trust us, leave far away from him". That's the level of love they feel for him. 
Then, everytime i saw them, they put me appart to tell me horrible things about him. Same thing in front of SS "your father is a coward, if he yell at you we will be yelling higher". 
 

One day, 3 years ago, SIL was there at home when DH was arguing with SS about someting. DH was really calm to SS, but SIL wake up and said "i can't be the witness of an abusive father who mistreat my nefew". 

Just to set the scene. So to sum up, they hate DH because it's just the way it is. They are completely jealous because he is the only one who took a different way and make is own independant life. They hate me because i'm helping him with that, and they definetely hate my son because obviously, i'm his mother. 
Just as simple as that. 
 

EDIT : SIL was also an emotionally abused child. She was the antidepressant of her mother. She often miss school to stay with her. However, by contrary, she was not beated and completely spoiled with gifts. So she grew up believing she is a good person compared to her brother, but she learned nothing about how to set up a healthy life.