Well I don't feel like a step mom as I did not raise either of the 2 sds, I married my husband and they were grown already. One sd has 4 kids and these are my first grandkids. However the oldest is 7 and I have sent gifts, bought diapers and anything needed along with babysitting since day one and I would do for all 4. The oldest is kept by the bm of the sd,, so we never get to see him. I get to babysit a 3 year old, 20 month old and 5 month old (they are all boys, think sd was trying for a girl for bm...). Sometimes I only get youngest 2 who are both in diapers and I get them for days and nights at a time. My dh is a truck driver and home every 5-6 days. They will arrange for me to babysit while he is at work and want the little ones back before he gets home. Then when he wants to see the boys, they have other plans. I am just fed up with whole mess. I am attached to the youngest 3 boys and love spending time with them.

Both sd's did not call on fathers day, never really have. This fathers day really bothered me as sd is borrowing our minivan for the week. my dh blames bm for all bad behavior of sd's. but since they are GROWN I am tired of hearing this. However I do know bm is controlling and is usually with sd when she comes to pick up sgrandkids. Supposedly bm is in bad health and can not deal with the babies. I feel like once they are potty trained I don't get to see them and dh rarely gets to see them.

Also my dd works in public setting, sd went into her place of employement and did not acknowledge her at all and was totally rude to her last week. The place was not busy so that is not a valid excuse for her rudeness. As dd helps with grandbabies, and sd knows this, we both feel that was uncalled for. Then sd texted my dd wanting gas money (dh and I were out of town). I want to address rude behavior with sd but dh said he will deal with it and i don't think he will...

sorry for venting so much...but 8 years of this is crazy...

so, how do you all deal????