I am new to this site & found it by accident when looking for something to help me with this issue. Here's a little background on my story, I have been married for 18months now, SS9 & a 9 month old daughter. I have tried very hard to like/love my SS9. I feel that we had a better connection before I had my daughter. He is by no means a bad kid. He can be rude, disrespectful & not listen to you right away. DH parents solely out of guilt. He would rather be SS9's friend than a parent. BM (who has primary custody), is hardly ever around.