It has been awhile since I last posted, last I wrote things were going much better, and still are with my mother in law. She has been diagnosed with colon cancer and many things have changed in her attitude toward me and my children. She is respectful of our business and she tries to include us in as many things as possible! I actually go down to her house now when she is home from lunch and have coffee with her. She is even starting to open her eyes to BM's problems. She still lives with my in-laws and probably will until they pass away. After all the things my in laws have done for her, taking her for her skull surgery, driving her 8 hours to and from Arkansas after she went to her dads and two days later decided she didn't want to be there anymore. Then catering to her every need because she could not drive for 3 months. My father in law is 75 years old and my mother in law is not much better in her condition. So after mother in laws chemo started her close cousin came down to take care of her and help with things around the house. After about a week of her cousin being there BM started throwing temper tantrums about the cousin being there. Telling her things like she needed to go home and locking the door so that they could not get into to tend to my mother in law. Also, there was an incident one night where about two vehicles got broken into in our subdivision. One of the vehicles was BM's car. BM tried to blame it on the cousin who is a 60 year old woman. also tried to blame it on my sis in law. The cops told her then that her car was not the only one broken into. Needless to say drama war began and cousin refused to leave. So BM took the kids late one night after a nasty confrontation with the cousin and rode around until about two in the morning. Then shows back up and tells mother-in-law she has no where to go. So then she runs off everyday after school and does not come home until after midnight every night and was late getting my two SD's to school almost everyday. She has started hiding her food upstairs from my in laws. Her payment for staying their is to help provide groceries with her food stamps. She is so disrespectful, selfish, she has no morals. Needless to say, my worst fears as a step-parent are coming true. My youngest SD 8 is starting to act like her mom BIG TIME! A huge change in her attitude toward my husband and I. She never used to argue with us when we told her something. All our kids know what we say goes, I am a very consistent person. We stand our ground even when we want to give in. Anyway, I know every child goes thru this phase not just skids.Almost as if she is jealous that I am a better mother than her mom. Wow,I really hate to sound conceded but I think I do a great job with all the kids. I have my mess-ups and my moments but for the most part I try to give my kids the attention I got when I was a child.She even went and told her mom one night that I did not feed them, True, I did fix a small box of hamburger helper and some mashed potatoes with green beans. I wasn't very hungry and my husband had been working nights and was stuck on that schedule so he was not yet out of bed and I figured I would cook him up something when he got up because I knew he would not touch the Hamburger Helper. So it was a small meal for four children. They cleaned the pots, my two SD's said they were still hungry when they got up from the table and I gave them each a can of brand new can pringles to munch on while they waited for their mom who was two hours late. Their mom pulled up shortly after they sat down with their snack and I told them they could take the chips with them. The next day my mother in law calls and says that BM said she was pissed at me cause I didn't feed the kids! Are YOU kidding me!!!!! I was furious!!! I want to confront my SD and ask them why they did this. I have no intention of being ugly to them but I also want them to know I am not going to put up with it. Any advice on how and what i should say to them would be appreciated!