SS8 is back with his mom again now and the weekend is over, it didn't even go that bad but I am glad it is over. I really tried to activly disengage this weekend and it did make it easier. Hell I didn't even cook, my DH was dissapointed but he didn't argue. So yesterday lunch was Wendy's, dinner was spagetti, breakfast this morning cereal, and lunch today mac and cheese and not the oven kind I make. There is a real lower quality of living when DH is in charge of food. The only time I broke dissingagement was an argument over I swear to God, CHEESE, yep cheese, DH ordered a cheeseburger for SS and he goes on about how he hates cheese and he always does it and I snapped a bit and told him "no you don't, you like pizza with cheese, tacos with cheese, garlic bread with cheese, hell even grilled cheese and cheese quizedillas so stop saying you hate it, you don't" It was stupid to get upset over but I am so sick of the stupidity. The rest of the weekend I left it up to DH, they painted pumpkins, didn't help. They watched t.v., went into my room or into my daughters room to play with her. I find its a lot less stressful when I dissingage so thats my new tack when it comes to SS, hopefully then next weekends will be as good as this one.