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Submitted by bostonstepmonster3 on Tue, 10/16/2012 - 6:56pm

I woke this morning very dizzy, off balanced and kept walking into walls. Then I tried some work on my lap top, and everything I read and tried to write was blury and wrong. I dropped a coffee cup and broke it from losing senstaion in my hand. Mind you, yesterday, mu husband told me he wouldn't go to counseling with me last night after the blow uo on Sunday. He said no way, no how, never, and he's pretty sure he's done being willing to do anything. I stayed home and worked today since he doesn't want me there.
Anyway, my friend called and I got so dizzy I told her I thought I was going to pass out, She came over right away and took me to the ER. Turned out to be Near-syncope( blood pressure related) mixed with a severe anxiety attack.
She called my husband and he said almost laughing, "I'm not surprised, she's coming down from manic". What!!!!!!!!!
My friend was livid!!!! I was mo where near manic when were arguing the other night about HIS lack of communication, but I'm never allowed to be angry, I'm manic. In addition, you don't say that kind of thing to someone you don't know. I called him back when the nurse released us and asked why he would sau that, and he said, becuse it's the truth. I said, I came in here for running into walls, for not being able to read the comuter screen and feeling that I was going to pass out, etc. He said Whatever, I asked him, "don't you even care?" He said, "No,I don't, I really don't!".

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Submitted by z3girl on Tue, 10/16/2012 - 7:44pm

Oh wow. I'm glad you have good friends. When my DH is at his worst, I can picture him being like that. It really makes one wonder what we ever saw in these horrible men. He's never going to be what you want him to be, and what he should be for decency's sake. Listen to Foxie...you need to look out for yourself. I hope when it's my turn to do the same, my boys will be a little older so I can handle it easier.

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Submitted by bi on Tue, 10/16/2012 - 7:51pm

he's a POS. i hope there is somewhere you can go immediately, because that bastard doesn't deserve to have you for one more day. i hate him. f'g POS.

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Tue, 10/16/2012 - 9:07pm

Oh yeah, F-that for sure Boston! A couple years ago, I started having similar symptoms. Turned out I had a brain tumor the size of an egg in the smack middle of my brain. Had an emergency craniotomy. Came out of ICU just weeks before DH and I were to "inherit" SD5 full fucking time. So yeah, I was just a little resentful of SD from the start. My one BD was already 18 at the time so I felt DH got a pretty decent deal. All things considered, can't believe I've made it this far with stepHELL!

If your SO doesn't care, find someone who does!

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Tue, 10/16/2012 - 9:14pm

I'm sorry you aren't feeling well Boston. I'm also sorry your H is being such an assface.

I hope you get out now while you still have your dignity intact. Don't let him take anymore of your soul away.

I hope you feel better!

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Tue, 10/16/2012 - 10:18pm

I am so sorry he's being such a cold hearted, inconsiderate ass. This man is showing you how he feels it's time to listen. He's made up his mind all of the issues in your marriage can't be because of him and is not only placing blame on you but twisting the knife. I personally would be getting all my ducks in a row, financial, lawyer, go no communication with him silence from you on all aspects of your life, etc have him legally evicted from the home and fight for what you need to move on (never leave the marital home unless you are in imminent danger this makes it harder to get it back if you want it) plus why should you have to move because he's a jerk.
I would like to hope he suddenly sees the error of his ways but a harsh wake up call is what I think this calls for.

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Submitted by Annanymous on Tue, 10/16/2012 - 10:39pm

I am so sorry! That is beyond cold. He has shown you and now has told you how he feels (or doesn't). It is definitely time to leave. And if you do have bipolar, what he said is so unbelievably insulting and disrespectful that I cannot even imagine my DH saying something like that, especially to someone else and in that tone. OMG My husband tried that a couple years ago, any time I got mad about ANYTHING no matter how VALID my being upset was, he would make a comment about me taking my medication or "you're aggitated today"... he don't dare do that any more.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Wed, 10/17/2012 - 8:34am

Good luck and keep us informed. He is an ass and you deserve better. He is lucky he didn't say that to me. I would have hit the guy if I was your friend...

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Wed, 10/17/2012 - 11:19am

Good for you Boston. I hope he is the best divorce lawyer in town!

Your H seems like a cruel, insensitive asshole.

I hope you are feeling better today.

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Submitted by bostonstepmonster3 on Mon, 10/22/2012 - 9:08pm

Now his attitude is turned around, now he couldn't be more caring, loving and converned. He took me my appt today. I don't get it.